Life Calling
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注：10.16晚听朱利安·罗素老师《绽放天赋》课程介绍的笔记收获。感受到《绽放天赋》与TA、《卓越元素》、人智学的生命传记著作《拉开距离看人生》和肯·罗宾逊的《让天赋自由》系列密切相关。关键是如何将使命、天赋与自己的日常营生联系起来，在三个维度上一并落实改变。
我们总能更深入地挖掘我们的潜能。
We can always go deeper into our potential.
我们所做的是寻找你生命中的呼唤，在你心中寻找你的同情心。
What we do is we find your life calling, we find your compassion in your heart.
这不是一个智力练习，这是一个心灵的考验。它必须发自内心，而不是头脑。
It's not an intellectual exercise, it's a heart test. It has to be from your heart，it's not from your mind.
首先，你要找到自己最大的热情所在，这种热情不仅关乎你自己和你的生活，也关乎他人。因此，为了生活，我必须生存下去。我必须成长，帮助人们成长，从自己做起，但随后我变得对帮助他人成长充满热情。
That's the first it's what you're most passionate about, and it's what you're most passionate about for yourself and your own life, and also for other people, so I had to survive to live, I had to grow, helping people grow and starting with myself, but then I became passionate about helping other people grow.
第二部分是：你如何将自己的人生使命整合起来？
How do you put your life calling together?
你需要将你的人生使命与你才能和优势结合起来。
You need your life calling combine with your talents, your strengths.
然后有时你不得不说，但是我有点害怕实现我对生活愿景的追求。我为什么有点害怕过我的生活？是什么让我内心感到阻碍？我们必须面对那些困难的内容。
and then sometimes you then have to say, but I'm a little frightened of living my vision of living my life. What's why am I am a little frightened of living my life? What stops me inside? We have to look at the difficult material.
我们只需要稍微处理一下这些创伤问题而不是疗愈所有的创伤，这样你就能采取行动了。
You only have to deal with them a little so that you go into action.
我们需要能够拥抱自己焦虑的部分，我们需要成为自己焦虑部分的最好朋友。然后，当内心的小孩说“我害怕”时，内心的成人会说：“那么我会牵着你的手。我在这里陪你。我会和你一起...”
We need to be able to hold the anxious part of ourselves, we need to be the best friend of the anxious part of ourselves, and then when the kid in me says, I'm frightened,he adult, he says, so i'll hold your hand. I'm here with you. I'll take you...
没有人能够完全被疗愈，但他们所做的是变得非常非常擅长对自己表现出同情心，像父母一样好好地照顾自己。
Nobody ever heals at all, but what they do is they've become very, very good at being compassionate with themselves and being like a parent themselves, holding themselves well.
当我们对自己的脆弱性和敏感性感到自在、富有同情心和爱意时，我们就不再进行自我评价。我们可以说：“这就是我，而你……”。
When we become comfortable and compassionate and loving with our own vulnerability and our own sensitivity. Then we stop being pricing. We can just say, here I am and you...
它不在你的头脑里。它在你的心里，在你的直觉里。它就像一种感觉。问题不在于了解你的人生使命。问题在于如何谋生，这才是更困难的部分。
It's not in your head. It's in your heart and in your guts. It's like a feeling. The problem isn't knowing your life calling. The problem is how to earn a living that's more difficult.
星巴克的创始人，他的人生使命是创造一个工作场所，让人们感到良好，当我们照顾他们并让他们感到被关心。
His life calling was creating a place to work where people felt good when we looked after and felt who care about them.
总是有三个要素：你的人生使命、你的优势以及你如何从中赚钱。你必须同时在这三个方向上努力。
There are always three elements——There's your life call, your strengths and how do you make money from it. You have to work at the three end together.
人生使命的种子发生在你生命的前七年。
The seed of the life calling happens in the first seven years of your life.
两条小鱼顺流而下，途中遇到了一条逆流而上的大鱼。大鱼说：“早啊，孩子们。今天的水怎么样？”两条小鱼礼貌地冲它一笑，继续向前游。过了一会儿，其中一条小鱼问同伴：“什么是水呀？”那条小鱼已经视水为无物，浑然不觉自己就在其中。天赋就是这般让你浑然不觉，让你在做某件事情时能产生强烈的共鸣，促使你发自内心地做自己。
——肯·罗宾逊《发现天赋的15个训练方法》
有时候，你的人生使命如此接近，以至于你甚至没有察觉。你不需要看到它，因为它就在你的身边。
Sometimes your life calling is so close that you don't even know. You don't need to see it because it's so close.
我们需要拥有力量，然后我们需要去实现它。之后，我们需要成为那种力量的主宰，我们真的需要发展这些能力，使之成为你擅长的东西，并让自己变得真正伟大。
We need to have the strength, but then we need to make it. We then need to be a master of that strength，we need to really develop this stuff to be something that you're good at and make yourself really great.
当你到了一定的年龄，你可能会认为从这里开始就是下坡路了，我会开始感到忧郁，我会变老，对于这些情况中的几件，如果你这样想，这就会成为一种自我实现的预言，如果你认为事情会这样发展，那么这就是会发生的事情。
So you get to a certain age, you can think it's downhill from here, i'm going to look on the blue, i'm going to become old, and for a couple of these things and then that acts as a self fulfilling prophecy if you think that the way, that's what will happen.
你要做的就是找到你人生使命的最佳用途。你可以在任何地方使用它，但你应该努力找到最好的方式。
What you try to do is to find the best use for your life calling. You could use it anywhere but you try to find the best.
我们中的大多数人都像是没有得到足够水分的花儿，我们只需要有人来浇灌，然后我们就会茁壮成长（做“园丁”而不是“木匠”）。
Most of us are flowers had non-enough water, we just need someone to pour water on, and then we'll just go.
关于水分……这其实是关于养育子女的问题——父母如何支持他们的孩子去生活。这真的很难。父母往往想要给孩子施加压力。父母认为什么对孩子来说是最好的，这非常困难，尤其是那些自己在艰难时期长大、经历过困难生活的父母，他们非常希望自己的孩子能够成功，然后他们就在孩子身上施加了太多的压力。
Yeah, about water...and this is about parenting——how parents support their children to live. It's so difficult. Parents very often want to put pressure on the kids.
What the parents think he's the best for the kid. Very difficult, and particularly parents who had difficult lives in were brought up in difficult times, which just so want their children to succeed and then they put too much pressure on their kids.
世界日新月异，中国也在变化，对你孩子来说可能是最好的（未来）职业对你而言可能并不是最好的职业（看到父母和孩子价值观的不同，不同代际的价值观差异性）。
The world is changing, China is changing, what may be the best career for your children may not have been the best career for you.
确实，实际上，有一件事情人们一开始可能会觉得有点不舒服，那就是有时候有人提出一个问题。我会停下来，感受我的腹部、感受我的心。在中国，你可以说，我在思考“道”。但一旦你习惯了，这在团队中有时候是非常美好的，我们所有人都会停下来一会儿，问自己：我的身体有什么感觉？
It's true... actually, one of the things people can find a little uncomfortable to start with is sometimes for someone asking a question. and I just stop and I feel my belly, I feel my heart and in china you can say, I think of the dao. But once you get used to it, it's beautiful in the group sometimes we all stop for a moment and say, what am I feeling in my body?
有时候人们会动摇和感到害怕，这只是为了疗愈。我只想注意到下面这个人。我想我踏入了佛教修行的道路。
Sometimes people shaken and frightened, it just comes for healing. I just want to notice the guy down here. I think I step at the buddhist practice.
我认为有两个要点，第一点是你必须相信，如果你有一个好的商业计划和一个好的愿景，你必须相信它。
I think there are two two points that the first that you have to believethat if you have a good business plan and a good vision, you have to believe in.
圣雄甘地说：“成为你想要的改变。”
Mahatma gandhi from india said, be the change you want in the world.
在社会中，尽管人们的角色和地位可能不同，但在根本的人性上，每个人都是平等的，都有潜力去调整和改变。
In society, some people are more important than others. But in Fundamental in our basic nature, we all have modulate were all the same.
一个真正重要的想法可以改变世界。所以重要的不是桶的大小，而是内容的质量，是世界上另一个事物。在这个世界上，有无限的可能性。你永远不知道你会影响什么。
So one really important idea can change the world. It's not the size of the barrel but quality of the content, the other thing within a world. There is infinite possibility and you never know what affects you.
我可能和某人进行了5分钟的对话，这在他们内心深处触动了他们。然后，他们可能会做一些了不起的事情。
I could have a five minute conversation with somebody. and that touches them somewhere deep inside themselves. But then you'll often do something amazing.
天才是1%的灵感加上99%的汗水。
That's a saying in English, which is the genius is one percent inspiration, ninety nine percent perspiration perspiration.
通过掌握自己的天赋和技能，人们可以成为各自领域的专家，并且在这个过程中，可能会发现他们的人生目标和其他人有着相似之处。
When you take your life calling, you take your talents, then you become the master, you want to be the master of those skills. Now you like calling quite a lot of my colleagues can be similar.
你是这个世界上唯一拥有自己独特人生使命的人。发展自己的长处，你将成为这个领域的大师。这个领域是由你的人生使命和你的优势的独特结合所定义的，你可以成为这个领域的世界大师。因为只有一个人拥有这种独特的组合，那就是你。但是你需要投入时间来变得真正优秀，你必须投入时间来真正发展自己。
You are the only person in the world with your life calling. Develop your strengths. and you will be the master of in this area where of this combination of your life falling on your face, you can be the world master in this area. Because there's only one person with this combination, and that's you. but you need to put the time into become really great at this, you have to put the time in to really develop yourself.
