这场讲座教你科学坦然地面对成长中的“尴尬”问题

教育   2024-12-27 14:43   上海  

这场讲座教你科学坦然地面对成长中的

“尴尬”问题


Navigating the ‘Awkard’ Challenges of Growing Up


青春期的孩子生理和心理急剧发展和变化,他们一方面对自己的身心变化充满好奇,一方面又不知道该如何应对这些变化。家长在孩子性教育的过程中起着非常重要的作用,但家长往往不知道怎么跟孩子开口谈性教育,甚至还会觉得尴尬不敢开口。

因此,“心灵小筑”心理辅导中心携手家长学校特别邀请了联合国人口基金会与生殖健康项目专家顾问、资深性教育培训师——陈静老师为孩子和家长分别开设了性教育系列讲座。

Adolescents experience rapid physiological and psychological development and changes. On one hand, they are curious about the changes in their bodies and minds, while on the other hand, they do not know how to properly deal with these changes. Parents play a very important role in their children's sex education, but parents often do not know how to talk to their children about sex education - and may even feel embarrassed to bring up the subject.

Therefore, the "The Small Shelter of the Soul" Psychological Counselling Centre, in collaboration with parents from our school, invited Chen Jing, founder of Yu Jian Ai Sex Education, to deliver a series of engaging and informative sex education lectures for both children and parents. Chen Jing is an expert consultant for the United Nations Population Fund and Reproductive Health Projects, a senior trainer in sex education, holds a Masters in Education from East China Normal University, and is a prominent leader in the field of children's sex education.










主题一:生命起源与生理卫生

The Origin of Life and Physiological Hygiene


陈老师走进五年级孩子,以“我是从哪里来的”这个问题带领孩子们在欢快的氛围中探索,理解生命的繁衍;在性教育玩偶演示生孩子的两种不同方式中,明确了自己从何而来。

Teacher Chen’s lecture for the fifth-grade students began with the provoking question, “Where do I come from?” This opening invited the children to embark on a thoughtful and positive exploration of life’s origins. Using visual aids, she demonstrated the two ways in which life is brought into the world, providing the students with a clear understanding of their beginnings. 

在讲解男生和女生身体的不同时,对于自己不同时期的身体变化也有了更深入的认识,能更坦然地面对自己成长中一系列的心身变化。

She then guided them through an age-appropriate discussion about the physical differences between boys and girls, helping the students understand the bodily changes they experience at different stages of growth. Through this, they gained confidence in navigating the physical and emotional changes of growing up. 


在观看生命的诞生视频后,更加懂得珍爱生命、感恩父母。

To deepen their understanding, the students watched a video on the birth of life, inspiring them to reflect on the value of life and instilling a sense of gratitude toward their parents.





主题二:性安全与自我保护

Sex Safety and Self-Protection


陈老师和孩子们一起探讨防范性侵的话题,通过真实的案例和“性侵犯大判断”、“谁有可能会伤害隐私部位?”等贴一贴的游戏,帮助孩子们了解了什么是性侵犯,意识到什么人会实施性侵犯,学会了判断不同类型的性侵犯和自我保护的技巧和方法,建立了危机意识。同时,还了解了哪些行为是侵犯他人隐私的行为,知道这些行为所需承担的法律后果。

Teacher Chen discussed the topic of preventing sexual assault with the children. Through real-life cases and games such as "Sexual Assault Grand Judgment" and "Who Might Harm Private Parts?", she helped the children understand what sexual assault is, realize who might commit a sexual assault, judge different types of sexual assault, and acquire self-protection skills and methods, firmly establishing a sense of self-ownership. At the same time, they also learned which behaviours are invasive of others' privacy and understood the legal consequences of such actions.

陈老师还教孩子们一旦识别性侵犯的信号,就应采用NOT原则,远离伤害。

The children were introduced to the “NOT” principle, which provided practical steps to recognise and avoid harmful situations. 

针对比较隐秘的网络性侵害,陈老师通过真实的案例教会孩子们网络的安全——“四不一要”。

They were also introduced to the risks of online sexual abuse through real-life examples, where they learned the "Four No’s and One Must" rule for internet safety. 

在轻松安全的氛围中,孩子们从开始的羞怯、不好意思变得越来越坦然,过去尴尬不愿意直面的疑惑也在今天的讲座中有了清晰的认识,直呼今天的性教育课程太值了。

These lessons equipped them with essential knowledge to navigate both real-world and digital dangers with greater confidence and awareness.

In the relaxed and supportive atmosphere created by Chen Jing, the children gradually overcame their initial shyness and embarrassment, becoming more open and comfortable as the session progressed.  Questions they had previously been hesitant to address were clarified, leaving them feeling more informed and at ease.  By the end of the lecture, many children expressed that the sex education class was both valuable and meaningful.

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学生感言:

Students’ Thoughts


我第一次发现,原来我们的身体这么奇妙!这次我是真正科学地了解到了我们是怎么来的,我们的生殖器结构以及在面对性侵犯时如何保护好自己。刚开始当老师讲到一些词汇时,我们都不约而同地捂住了眼睛。但后来,我发现自己越来越坦然了! 

For the first time, I realised how amazing our bodies are! I truly came to a scientific understanding of our origins, the structure of our reproductive organs, and how to protect ourselves when facing sexual assault. At first, when the teacher mentioned certain terms, we all instinctively covered our eyes. But later, I found myself becoming more and more at ease!        

——5A谭羽聪


通过性教育讲座,我知道保护自己的隐私部位是非常重要的,不可以做危险的行为或动作伤害自己或他人的隐私部位。

Through this sex education lecture, I learned that protecting my body is very important, and that I should not engage in dangerous behaviours or actions that harm my own body or others' bodies.   

——5B祝晨剀


这次讲座我学到了很多青春期卫生、自我防护知识。信息量很大,我需要慢慢消化。

I learned a lot about adolescent hygiene and self-protection during this lecture. There was a lot of information, and I need to take my time to digest it all.

——5C安迪


很多我之前一知半解的东西在陈静老师幽默风趣的讲解和演示中渐渐明晰起来,我感受到了生命的神奇和宝贵。

Many things that I previously only vaguely understood became clear through Teacher Chen Jing’s humourous and engaging explanations and demonstrations. I have come to appreciate the wonder and value of life.

——5D彭悦航


陈老师讲得非常生动。我详细地了解了男生和女生生理系统的差别,知道了怎么清洁隐私部位,也更了解如何保护自己的隐私部位。陈老师还举例讲解了强奸、猥亵、性骚扰三种性侵犯方式的区别,使我们知道遇到这样的突发情况该怎么面对,非常喜欢这样课。

Teacher Chen's lecture was very lively. I gained a detailed understanding of the differences between the male and female physiological systems, learned how to properly care for personal areas of my body, and became more aware of how to protect my privacy. Teacher Chen also explained the distinctions between rape, molestation, and sexual harassment with examples, which helped us know how to deal with such emergencies. I really enjoyed this kind of class.

——5E杨孝媛


这场性教育讲座真是精彩无比!我更加了解自己的身体,也更加清楚如何保护自己免受他人的伤害,这在我的成长过程中是十分重要的。

This sex education lecture was truly fascinating! I have gained a better understanding of my own body and learned more about how to protect myself from harm by others, which is very important in my growth process.

——5F李东泽


在性教育讲座中我知道了我们的身体是怎样发育的,一开始感觉很害羞、尴尬,但是在陈老师全面科普之后,我渐渐地不再尴尬了,也了解了我是从哪里来的。

During this sex education lecture, I learned about how our bodies grow and develop. At first, I felt shy and a little embarrassed, but thanks to Teacher Chen's clear and thoughtful explanations, I gradually felt more comfortable and came to understand where I came from.

——5G张馨文


陈老师讲得非常详细,教会我们如何清洗自己的身体,教会我们怎样保护自己的身体,这真是我们成长中非常重要的一次学习呀!

Teacher Chen explained the topics in great detail, teaching us how to keep our bodies clean and how to protect ourselves. This was truly a very important learning experience for us during our growth!

——5H徐安绮


听了陈静老师的性教育讲座后,我深受启发。陈老师以生动的方式探讨了性健康、性安全以及自我保护的重要性。我意识到性教育不仅仅是关于生理知识的传授,更是对自我认知和社会责任的培养。性教育对于每个人来说都至关重要,它能帮助我们了解男生女生的生理结构区别,了解生命的成长过程,建立正确的性观念,预防不必要的性侵风险,并能遵守性规范、尊重他人。课堂上的案例和建议,也使我更加明白性教育应该是一个全面、持续的过程,贯穿于我们的成长和生活中。

After listening to Teacher Chen Jing's sex education lecture, I was deeply inspired. Teacher Chen explored the importance of sexual health, safety, and self-protection in a lively manner. I realised that sex education is not just about imparting physiological knowledge; it is also about cultivating self-awareness and social responsibility. Sex education is crucial for everyone as it helps us understand the differences in the physiological structures of males and females, the growth process of life, establishing correct sexual concepts, preventing unnecessary sexual assault risks, and adhering to sexual norms while respecting others. The cases and advice shared in the classroom also made me understand that sex education should be a comprehensive and ongoing process that runs through our growth journey and life.

——5I杨熙杰




那么,爸爸妈妈回家怎么不尴尬地开口和孩子谈性教育呢?


So, how can parents talk to their children about sex education without embarrassment when they arrive home?








“怎么不尴尬地开口对青春期孩子开展性教育?”

“How to approach sex education with adolescents without embarrassment?”

关于性的话题,尴尬的其实不是孩子,而是家长。因此,陈老师先带领家长进行“性脱敏”,帮助家长能够坦然地和孩子谈性。然后帮助家长梳理性价值观,学会以积极、正面的态度引导孩子,从孩子的日常生活入手,通过自然、轻松的方式引导孩子正确认识自己的身体和情感,将全面、科学的性价值观种到孩子心里。

When it comes to the topic of sex, it's not the children who feel embarrassed, but the parents. Therefore, Teacher Chen first led parents through "sexual normalisation," helping them to discuss sexuality openly with their children. Then, she assisted parents in organising their sexual values and learning to guide their children with a positive and proactive attitude. Starting from the child's daily life, she taught them to naturally and effortlessly guide their children to correctly understand their own bodies and emotions, planting a comprehensive and scientific view of sexuality in their children's hearts.

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“新闻中性侵事件时有耳闻,我该怎么教会孩子学会预防?”

"I often hear about sexual assault cases in the news, but how can I teach my child to prevent them?"

陈老师分享了帮助孩子建立隐私保护的三原则:

Teacher Chen shared three principles to help children establish privacy protection:

不随便碰:不给别人碰,也不碰别人的;

Do not touch casually: Neither touch others nor allow others to touch you.


不随便看:不给别人看,也不看别人的;

Do not look casually: Neither expose yourself to others nor look at others.


不随便说:有问题,在家里讨论。

Do not speak casually: Discuss issues at home.





科普了儿童防性侵方法:

She also introduced methods to prevent child sexual abuse:

首先要让孩子有明确的身体界限感,身体上哪些地方让其他人触碰会感觉很奇怪,或者感觉不舒服。

First, it is important to give children a clear sense of body boundaries, to know which parts of their body, when touched by others, would feel strange or uncomfortable.


其次,假如遇到让自己身体感觉不舒服的情况,一定要教会孩子遵循“NOT”原则。

Second, if they encounter situations that make them feel physically uncomfortable, it is crucial to teach children to follow the "NOT" principle.





“孩子‘早恋’了怎么办?”

"What should I do if my child is 'puppy loving' or having an early romantic relationship?"

家长需要和孩子建立信任的关系,通过分享自己的经验和感受,建立起共鸣和信任。

Parents need to establish a trusting relationship with their child, sharing their own experiences and feelings to build bonds and trust.


家长在交流中需要传达对孩子的爱和关心,让孩子感受到家长的支持和理解。同时,明确告诉孩子会尊重他们的选择,但在关键时刻会给予指导和帮助。

During communication, parents should convey their love and care for their children, making them feel supported and understood. At the same time, it's important to make it clear to the child that while their choices will be respected, guidance and help can be provided at crucial moments.


家长需要和孩子共同商讨与异性相处的规则:

身体相隔“一臂社交距离”

绝不触碰彼此的隐私部位

不在封闭空间单独相处,多在公共场合交往

学会尊重彼此,真诚相待

平衡好爱情和学习的关系

Parents need to discuss rules for interacting with the opposite sex with their child:

▪Maintain a "one-arm social distance" apart from each other rule.

▪Never touch each other's private parts.

▪Avoid being alone together in enclosed spaces; interact more in public places.

▪Learn to respect each other and be sincere in your interactions.

▪Balance the relationship between love and studies.









最后的讲座互动问答环节,家长们纷纷提出了家庭性教育过程中的困惑,陈老师都一一耐心解答,为家长们提供了宝贵的指导。

In the final interactive Q&A session of the lecture, parents eagerly asked their questions about how to approach sex education at home.  Teacher Chen patiently addressed each query, offering thoughtful and practical guidance. 

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家长们受益匪浅——

The session proved to be highly beneficial, leaving parents feeling more confident and equipped to handle these important conversations with their children

有的家长说:“今天听了非常多的精彩案例,让我对于性教育有了更全面的理解!”

Some parents shared their thoughts, saying, "Today, I received so much valuable advice, which gave me a more comprehensive understanding of sex education!"


有的家长说:“今天真是收获满满,我已经性脱敏了,回去终于能开口和孩子谈全面的性教育啦!”

Others expressed, "Today was truly fruitful; I've become more confident around the topic of sex, and I can finally talk to my child about comprehensive sex education when I go back home!"


还有的家长说:“今天回家我就要按照陈老师讲的方法给孩子开启性教育启蒙啦!”

Others shared, "I’m excited to help begin my child’s journey into sex education using the methods Teacher Chen shared as soon as I get home today!"


希望通过这一系列全面、科学的学生及家长性教育讲座,能够帮助家长和孩子们在讨论难以开口的尴尬问题时,彼此都不尴尬!

In conclusion, this series of comprehensive and scientific sex education lectures successfully aimed to empower both parents and children to approach challenging and sensitive topics with greater ease and confidence. By fostering open communication and reducing feelings of embarrassment or discomfort, the lectures have left a lasting impact on our school community.





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供稿 Written | 俞晨

翻译 Translated | 卢珊

中文审稿Chinese Proofread | 宋靓

英文审稿 English Proofread | Stephanie Patricia Hosier,Seth Matthew Hoover,D. Scott Hockley,Adam Neufield

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