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最近追《玫瑰的故事》这部剧时，玫瑰向何西推荐了一部纪录片Losers (2019)。我特好奇，于是在Netflix上看了这部影片，真的太好看了！我看过的最佳纪录片之一！
《Losers》是Netflix2019制作发布的纪录片，由导演兼执行制片人Mickey Duzyj执导。纪录片共八集，每集半小时左右。每集专注于一个独特的故事，关于在体育领域中遭遇失败的运动员和球队。纪录片采访了运动员以及他们的朋友、家人和记者，了解他们在失败后的经历、情感和转变，是如何将失败经历转化为积极的东西。
喜欢这部纪录片的原因有很多，比如它独特的叙述方式：有真人采访、影片回放、实景拍摄和动画演绎。尤其是动画部分，制作得非常精美。每一集都让我深受感动，富有深刻的寓意。它不仅仅是对失败的记录，更是对人类意志、韧性和心灵力量的赞颂。而且，通过观看这部纪录片，我学到了许多词汇，如musher（赶狗拉雪橇的人）, be gunning for somebody (伺机批评伤害某人）, mettle (勇气，耐力）等等。
看这部纪录片时，我并没有按顺序看，而是随意挑选一集。每一个故事都给我带来不同的震撼。影片中有许多发人深省的语句，给我留下了深刻的印象。
① The Miscast Champion
Michael Bentt 被其虐待狂父亲强迫从事拳击运动，成为世界重量级拳王后意外失败，转而成为一名演员和编剧。
“Lots of people go through dark moments and they don’t come out. We have jails filled with people that don’t come out of those dark moments. Mike knows how to come out of those dark moments, and even go back in, and then come back out again, and still persevere, you know. And just be on the journey that…that’s life.”
看到这段话时，触动很深。很多人经历过人生的至暗时刻，有的人陷入困境后，就从此一蹶不振，用酒精等麻痹自己，逃离痛苦和现实。而有的人坚韧无比，在一次次失败中重振旗鼓。这也让我联想到在奈飞上看过的另一部纪录片：Unlocked: A Jail Experiment ，讲的是监狱系统改革实验。影片里采访了一些罪犯，有的就是反反复复进出监狱。有的人即使获得了改变自我的机会，但一旦再次陷入困境，又会重操旧业。
“Miles Davis has a quote. ‘Sometimes it takes a long time to learn how to play like yourself.’ I’m always chasing, like, you know, ‘Who am I?’ And that’s okay.”
我们都在不断探索中成长。发现自我，了解自己，是需要时间的，是漫长而复杂的过程。接受生命旅程里会充满不确定性，不要焦虑和沮丧，保持耐心和坚持。这段话对我最近调整焦虑状态很有帮助。
② The Jaws of Victory
讲述英国足球俱乐部Torquay United在英格兰足球联赛赛季的最后一天，由于一名球员被警犬咬伤，意外获得成功的故事。
“I would say to the people that are big football-club followers, get real. Learn a bit about football history. Cause it is part of football folklore now, that story.”
喜欢一项运动时，多了解其历史会更有趣。若不是这部纪录片，我还不知道足球赛事中竟有如此独特有趣的故事。想到最近看欧冠赛时，看到了一些精彩画面（如下图），并且被那些在最后一两分钟进球、永不言弃的奋斗精神深深触动。
“We’ve survived. And when you survive, there’s always a chance of doing better next year. ”
想到“留得青山在，不怕没柴烧。” 不管当下困境多大，先存活下来。只要活着就有可能，就有机会变更好。
③ Judgement
讲述法国花样滑冰选手Surya Bonaly，在多个国际比赛中面临着来自裁判的种族歧视，遭遇不公正评分的经历。
“As a black athlete, I think, we had to do just more than good. My job was to be…impeccable. Make sure that I was 100%, not just between 60 and 80. It wouldn’t work. It has to be 100% or more.”
遭遇歧视时，要想获得一席之地，必须让自己做到无懈可击。然而，即便如此，不公平仍然存在。但Surya Bonaly的努力和卓越终究被人看见，赢得了别人的掌声和尊重。
“Sometimes it’s hard. Many days on the ice, you feel like crying, but winning a competition, it’s not the most important thing in life. You don’t have to wait for a medal to make your life different. A medal, it’s nice, but it’s not the most important. A medal is superficial. It’s not real. If you give 100%, and you know there was no other way, you did the best, well, feel good about it. Feel positive, and move on, and in the next competition, it will be better. So try to be a good person, try to be a good athlete, or a good student, without trying to get a medal, because sometimes, it can destroy you and really upset you.. for life sometimes and it’s not good.”
说得非常现实中肯。聚光灯总是落在获奖的人身上，没获奖不代表不优秀。正是因为Surya Bonaly经历过赛事的起起伏伏，她更懂得什么才是生命中最重要的。得奖者往往是众星捧月，但一旦有了一次失误，就会被一些人唾骂，完全忘记了他曾带来的荣誉和付出的努力。赛事上以成败论英雄，但漫漫人生，不能被奖牌或失利左右，认清自己，更重要。
④ Stone Cold
Pat Ryan比赛败北后想要颠覆冰壶界。他想出了一个制霸策略。然而，他的策略也引发这项运动的改革。
“Pat shifted the game to a new rule that made it more entertaining, more exciting, arguably more so than it was before. Love him or hate him, he became so good at something that it actually transformed the game itself.”
一个人的成功和影响力往往伴随着争议，但真正的改变者会不畏质疑，努力通过自己的成就赢得认可。Pat为了获得成功，非常有计划，他会复盘自己的失败经历，且执行力很强。这些都是我们值得学习的地方。
⑤ Lost in the Desert
讲述意大利奥运选手Mauro Prosperi 参加撒哈拉以南地区马拉松比赛，在比赛中失踪，最终克服了极端困难，得以生存。
“I realized that whatever I did, in that moment, it was so natural, innate in man.”
人在极端情况下，为了求生，本性和本能会被激发。为了生存，人什么都敢吃。
“After every finish line, there’s a starting line. This experience simply gave me the joy of living life.”
终点之后总会有新的起点，人生充满了挑战。Mauro Prosperi在沙漠中奔跑的经历，使他对生活充满热爱，也因此痴迷于这项运动。
⑥ Aliy
阿拉斯加的狗拉雪橇比赛选手Aliy Zirkle，在比赛中多次遭遇挫折但从未放弃。
“I learned a lot in a very negative way, that not every human being values life, in particular my life, and that there are people with bad intentions.”
“There is sadness in the world, and sometimes you get knocked down and … Yep, there’s a lot of that out there, and I wish there wasn’t. But there sure it is.”
这世上有善有恶，防人之心不可无。
“My problem was that I really believed that it was gonna happen again. You build up these scenarios of what you think’s gonna happen, and it’s… You get in this circle of what you think’s gonna happen. And you can’t necessarily get out of that loop. The more you think about it, the more you convince yourself and you back it up.”
这让我联想到自证预言，当我们相信某件事情会发生时，我们的行为和态度会无意中促使这个预言或信念成为现实。越是担心坏事会发生，就越会找到蛛丝马迹去验证自己的想法。
“Winning is the goal in a race. I’ve always finished the race. I’m gonna finish the race. And I’m gonna do my best to win it. Will I be completely heartbroken and life-shattered if I don’t win? Well, I certainly hope not. Would it be phenomenal if I did? Oh, yeah! What I would like is to be able to show people that you can be a competitive dog musher, and a compassionate dog musher.”
比赛中，拼劲全力赢得比赛，即使没得奖，同样也可享受赛事。
⑦ Black Jack
美国纽约篮球场上的传奇人物Jack Ryan，曾错失了一系列机会，但后来凭借与生俱来的幽默感在篮球运动中找到了自己的一席之地。
“I’m at the bottom. I can’t go any further. So, I just keep doing what I do. I’m playing basketball.”
“So, in my park, I had some of my friends that were negative. I stayed away from those negative people. Because, what happens when you hang around negative people? Negative things happen when you surround yourself with negative people. What happens when you surround yourself with positive people? Positive things happen when you surround yourself with positive people.”
物以类聚，人以群分。消极的人聚在一起，只会加剧消极情绪。远离负面消极的人，努力做一个积极、充满正能量的人。
“Can you imagine waking up and doing your…It’s not even a job. Cause when you love what you’re doing, it’s not a job. And unfortunately, there’s a lot of miserable people out there that have to go to work and do a job that they don’t like. Not him. Not Jack.”
扎心事实，很多人不得不从事着自己厌恶的工作。
⑧ The 72nd Hole
法国高尔夫球手Jean van de Velde，离赢得 1999 年英国公开赛冠军只剩一个洞了，这最后一洞的重大失误给他带来心碎和收获。
“I think in golf, as in life, yes, you have winners. But not everybody is a winner every week.”
Life is full of ups and downs. 人生起起落落，不可能总是当王者。
“I do believe that you really need to try to make the difference that you can make. Even if it’s very small, it doesn’t matter. Every small difference is positive. Uh, and this is exactly what I’m trying to do.”
我认同Jean van de Velde 说的这段话，即使做出的改变很小，只要是积极的，就有意义。
每个故事里的人物似乎都是世俗定义中的“loser 失败者”，但我从他们的故事中学到，失败并不可怕。无论经历多少次失败，重要的是拥有一次次再战的勇气和智慧。
借用该纪录片的一句话结束本文：
“A society cannot make do with only talk about victory. We always say that we learn more from defeat than from victory. So, if we learn from defeat, we should pay a bit more attention to those who lose.”
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本文作者：Eveline静 （Evelyne，独立老师）
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