问：某个地方的恐惧使我变得封闭，很艰难，悲伤，绝望，愤怒和无助。似乎太微妙了，我甚至没有真正碰触到它。我如何能看得更清晰？
答：
对于悲伤、绝望、忿怒、惊慌、痛苦、忧虑、难过，唯一最大的问题就是：你想要「摆脱」它们。那是唯一的障碍。
你必须跟它们一起生活。你不能一直逃避。它们是生命必须整合与成长最重要的要素。它们是生命的挑战。接受它们。它们是祝福却乔装成别种样子。如果你想逃离它们，总想要摆脱它们，那就是问题，因为如果你要摆脱某样东西你绝对不会直接面对它，然后事情开始被你隐藏着，因为你谴责它。然后这个东西就越深入潜意识中，隐藏在你本性最黑暗、找不到的角落，它进入你本性的地下室中躲在那里。当然，它进入的越深就越制造出麻烦，因为它从未知的角落运作，而你对此完全无助。
所以，第一件事情：绝对不要压抑；不论是什么就是什么。接受它，让它来，让它来到你面前。事实上，只是说：不要压抑，是不够的。如果你允许我，我会说：与它为友。
你感到悲伤吗？与它为友。对它慈悲。悲伤也有本性。允许它，拥抱它，跟它坐在一起，牵着它的手。对它友善。爱它。悲伤是美丽的！那没有什么不对。是谁告诉你悲伤是不对的？事实上，只有悲伤能给你深度。欢笑是浅的，快乐是肤浅的。悲伤进入骨髓深处。没有东西会像悲伤那样进入那么深。
所以，不要担心。跟它在一起，悲伤会带你进入你的最核心处。你可以骑在它上面开始看到一些你自己以前从不知道的新事物。这些事情只有在悲伤的状态中被显现出来，在快乐之中是看不到的。黑暗也是好的，也是神圣的。
一个能够耐心悲伤的人，会突然间在一个早晨中发现快乐从未知的泉源涌入心中而升起。那个未知的泉源就是存在。如果你真的悲伤、真的在无助、绝望、痛苦中，你就赢得了它。如果你经验过地狱，现在你已经赢得了天堂。你已经付出代价了。
面对生命。会有困难的时刻，但是总有一天你会看到是这些困难的时候给了你强度，因为你面对它们。这是它们存在的意义。通过这些困难时刻是艰辛的，但是之后你会看到因为它们而使你更整合。
让经验成为你生命中最基本的法则。甚至如果你必须为此受苦，那就受苦。你绝不会是输家。那个苦会使你更能够享受生命、更欢庆生命。
Q: Somewhere there is that fear which makes me closed and hard and sad and desperate and angry and hopeless. It seems to be so subtle that I don’t even get really in touch with it. How can I see it more clearly?
A：
The only problem with sadness, desperateness, anger, hopelessness, anxiety, anguish, misery, is that you want to get rid of them. That’s the only barrier.
You will have to live with them. You cannot just escape. They arethe very situation in which life has to integrate and grow. They are the challenges of life. Accept them. They are blessings in disguise. If you want to escape from them, if you somehow want to get rid of them, then the problem arises – because if you want to get rid of something, you never look at it directly. And then the thing starts hiding from you because you are condemnatory; then the thing goes on moving deeper into the unconscious, hides in the darkest corner of your being where you cannot find it. It moves into the basement of your being and hides there. And of course the deeper it goes, the more trouble it creates – because then it starts functioning from unknown corners of your being and you are completely helpless.
So the first thing is: never repress. The first thing is: whatsoever is the case is the case. Accept it and let it come – let it come in front of you. In fact just to say “do not repress” is not enough. If you allow me, I would like to say, “Befriend it.”
You are feeling sad? Befriend it, have compassion for it. Sadness also has a being. Allow it, embrace it, sit with it, hold hands with it. Be friendly. Be in love with it. Sadness is beautiful! Nothing is wrong with it. Who told you that something is wrong in being sad? In fact only sadness gives you depth. Laughter is shallow; happiness is skin-deep. Sadness goes to the very bones, to the marrow. Nothing goes as deep as sadness.
So don’t be worried. Remain with it and sadness will take you to your innermost core. You can ride on it and you will be able to know a few new things about your being that you had never known before. Those things can be revealed only in a sad state, they can never be revealed in a happy state. Darkness is also good and darkness is also divine. The day is not only existence’s, the night is also. I call this attitude religious....
A person who ccan be patiently sad will suddenly find that one morning a happiness is arising in his heart from some unknown source. That unknown source is godliness. You have earned it if you have been truly sad; if you have been truly hopeless, desperate, unhappy, miserable, if you have lived in hell, you have earned heaven. You have paid the cost....
Confront life. Encounter life. Difficult moments will be there, but one day you will see that those difficult moments gave you strength because you encountered them. They were meant to be. Those difficult moments are hard when you are passing through them, but later on you will see they have made you more integrated. Without them you would never have been centered, grounded.
let expression be one of the most fundamental rules of your life. Even if you have to suffer for it, suffer. You will never be a loser. That suffering will make you more and more capable of enjoying life, of rejoicing in life.The Art of Dying
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