Jasmine Chan 是华裔美国人，爸爸妈妈都来自中国。几年前，她从art school 退学，在纽约开了一家自己的纹身店，现在是一名专业的纹身师。
Healing My Relationship with My Parents After Dropping Out of College.
Jasmine 的父母和大多数中国父母一样，把进入一所好大学视作培养孩子的终极目标。
视频中用到的很多词汇、表达、句式我们可以直接挪用来描述自己的感受，非常值得积累。
文章后半段我会筛选一些地道表达，结合外刊和美剧例句，给大家展开讲一讲~
我摘录了一部分值得学习的语言点，分享给大家~
01
「青春期」用英文怎么说？
sb's formative teenage years 也就是「某人性格形成的青春期」。
我们在经济学人：女性之间的友谊有多美好？也遇见过这个词：
Many formative experiences were shared: their first trip to the cinema, their first visit to an Asian restaurant, and, as they reveal a few months later over Zoom, their first online activism.
她们共享了许多成长时期的经历：第一次去电影院，第一次去亚洲餐厅，第一次参加线上运动（几个月后通过 Zoom 讲述）。
这里formative experiences 指「性格形成时期的经历，成长经历」。这个短语考研英语一2022年Part B也考过。
这个词怎么用呢？ 我们联系「追星」话题造个句：
In many cases, children who are in the formative stage may imitate and follow those celebrities’ ways of thinking and living.
在很多情况下，处于成长阶段的孩子可能会模仿和追随那些明星的思维和生活方式。
children who are in the formative stage, children who are in their formative years 就可以用来与teenagers同义替换。
02
「从小到大」用英文怎么说？
我们再来看几个例子：
... and all that 指「... 等等，...之类的东西」，口语里经常用。
03
如何表达「重视教育」？
相信这段描述很多同学都有共鸣了（can relate to）。
It was made quite clear to me that... 指「我很清楚...」。
从语法上说，it 为形式主语，真正的主语是后面that引导的主语从句。
我们把句子还原成一般语序即：
That my parents valued education above everything else and that the one and only end goal was to get into a good college // was made quite clear to me.
直译便是「我的父母最看重教育，最终唯一的目标就是考上一所好大学」这件事，已经明确被告知给我了。
短语 make sth clear to sb 指「明确地告知某人」。It was made quite clear to me that... 就表示「我清楚地知道...」。
value A above B 指「重视...高于...」。
Many employers value personality above experience or qualifications.
许多雇主重视个性甚于经验或资历。
value education above everything else 便指「把教育看得比其他一切都重要」。
I mean, it's not so bad if tonight is our only night, right? To our one and only night together.
04
如何表达「上课外班」？
have the privilege of doing sth 指「很幸运能够做某事」。
我很喜欢Jasmine的一点是她能够在很小的年纪就充分地认识到了自己身上的privilege，没有把一切事物都视作理所当然。
attend sth 指「参加」，可以替换我们熟悉的take part in sth, engage in sth。
比如：attend classes 上课 attend college 上大学 attend meetings 参加会议，开会 attend the concert 参加演唱会
attend a lot of outside classes 便指「参加了很多课外班」。
《经济学人》一篇关于双减政策的文章也用到了这个词：
Urban pupils attend cramming classes for more than 10 hours a week, according to Deloitte, an accountancy firm.
德勤的数据指出，城市的小学生每周补习的时间超过10小时。
I was attending a sort of book event.
顺便补充一下，名词attendance 就表示「出席，出勤」、「出勤人数」。
05
如何表达「满足期待」？
But because I was an only child, I had all these expectations that were placed on me. And When I couldn't meet them all. I would be met with disappointment and disapproval. And that really tends to take a toll on someone who's really young and really impressionable.
place sth on sb 指「把...放在某人身上」。
place expectations on sb 即「把期待放在某人身上」。
I have all these expectations that were placed on me 便可用来表示「我背负了很多期待，我被寄予厚望」。
meet sb's expecations 便指「满足某人的期待」。
be met with sth 和meet with sth一样，都可以表示「遭到，遭受，获得」(to get a particular reaction or result)，后面常跟表示态度或情绪的词。
这里be met with disappointment and disapproval 便指：我会遭遇（父母的）失望和反对。
《南华早报》一篇关于生育政策的文章也用到了这个词：
Instead, the government’s latest attempt to reverse the trend of declining fertility was met with cynicism and indignation.
政府试图扭转生育率不断下降的趋势，公众却是愤世嫉俗，忿忿不平。
考研英语二2021年Text 1的一个选项里也出现过这个短语：
The pandemic has taken a devastating toll on the physical health of millions of people. But the mental-health effects could prove even more enduring.
新冠对数百万人的身体健康造成了毁灭性的伤害。然而，其对心理健康的影响可能更加持久。
Smartphones can be addictive and distracting, taking a heavy toll on teenagers' mental health.
智能手机会让人上瘾，分散人的注意力，严重影响青少年的心理健康。
While ChatGPT can be a useful tool for learning, an excessive reliance on it takes a heavy toll on students‘ creativity and originality. 虽然 ChatGPT 是一种有用的学习工具，但过度依赖它也会影响学生的创造力和原创性。
我们再联系「广告对青少年的影响」这一话题造个句：
06
如何表达「表现不好」？
Being even able to attend college is a privilege in itself that I will never stop being grateful for. But first year of college I was not doing so hot. I was not doing great mentally. I was not doing great grade-wise.
in itself 是个词组，指「本身」。sth is a privilege in itself. 便指「...本身就是一种特权，...本身就是一种幸运」。
再比如《经济学人》一篇关于游说的文章有这样一句话：
Lobbying is not in itself corrupt, of course.
当然，游说本身并不涉及腐败。
I was not doing great mentally. I was not doing great grade-wise.便指「我的精神状态不太好，成绩也不太好」。
You're gonna do great.
比如：money-wise 钱方面 weather-wise 天气方面
So where are you right now, mood-wise?
07
如何表达「无法承受父母的失望」？
I think this was where I started developing into a very avoidant person. I would ignore their messages, their calls for weeks on end. I really could not deal with any more disappointment on their end.
I think this was where I started doing sth.
这个过渡句式大家也可以积累下来。
develop into sb / sth 指「变成...，发展成...」。
avoidant 为avoid的形容词形式，指「回避型的」。回避型依恋就叫作avoidant attachment。
for+时间+on end 指「连续多久」。 for weeks on end 即「连续几周」
... your best friend who tolerated you whining about this girl for weeks on end.
比如： I really can't deal with any more pressure. 我无法再承受更多的压力。
我们再来看两个美剧里的例子，大家体会一下这里end的用法：
Devotion on my end has not been a problem.
Well, don't worry. I've been slacking on my end, too.
08
如何形容家庭气氛紧张？
I still went back to visit them in California but it just felt like we were walking on a ton of eggshells. There was just so much tention in the space.
eggshell 是「蛋壳」的意思，walk on eggshells 走在鸡蛋壳上，喻指「战战兢兢地行事，小心翼翼」，类似于中文里说的「如履薄冰」。
There was just so much tention in the space.
如果要形容「与父母的关系紧张」，我们可以说：have a strained relationship with parents。
09
如何形容观点不一致？
I wouldn't say that my relationship with my parents is completely healed, but we're getting there! We've reached a point of mutual understanding where our perspective on life might not align exactly but respect each other's choices and that makes me really happy.
I wouldn't say that... But... 我不会说...，但是...
这是口语里经常用的让步转折句。我们来造个简单句：
I wouldn't say that London is very safe, but it is not as dangerous as social media makes it to be.
我不会说伦敦很安全，但它并不像社交媒体所说的那么危险。
get there 是个词组，到达那里，指「达到目的，获得成功」。
be getting there 便指「正朝着目标前进，正在进步」，相当于be making progress。
The hospital isn't up to snuff, but it's getting there.
I know it's overwhelming, but you're gonna get there.
reach a point where...指「达到...点，达到...地步」。
比如《经济学人》一篇关于硅谷银行暴雷的文章有这样一句话：
And though the Fed’s backstopping of the system will probably avert a banking meltdown, policymakers should never have got to a point where such extraordinary interventions were needed.
尽管在美联储的保护下，银行系统或许不至于陷入崩溃，但决策者们永远不应走到这种需要特别干预的地步。
But you reach a point where you can't live a lie anymore.
And I've reached the point where I'm not taking shit from anyone.
our perspective on life might not align exactly 便指「我们对人生的看法可能并不完全一致」。
介词搭配为align with sth 指「与...一致」。align sth with sth 指「使...与...一致」。
我们来看两个美剧里的例子：
They have to align with the mission of the magazine.
It‘s been said though that you're aligning yourself with labor party policy.
10
如何替换understand？
When I was younger, I was often immature and didn't fully grasp my parents' intentions. However now I understand that they just wanted the best for me. As I've gotten older, I've come to appreciate just how much they sacrificed and I'm very grateful for everything.
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didn't fully grasp my parents' intentions 便知「没有完全理解我父母的用意」。
He has not yet grasped the importance of fidelity.
have a good / firm grasp of sth 则表示「精通...，非常了解...」。
have a poor grasp of sth 便指「掌握得很糟糕，并不了解」。
《经济学人》一篇关于生育技术的文章就用到了这个词：
Although reproduction is one of the most basic aspects of human biology, scientists have an astonishingly poor grasp of how a new life comes about.
尽管繁殖是人类生理的最基本方面之一，但对于新生命是如何产生的，科学家已经掌握的知识却少得惊人。
want the best for sb 是一个词组，指「希望给某人最好的东西」。
昨天听一档播客，恰好也听到了这个词：
She is just a commited teacher. You know. She really wants the best for her students.
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