「人生是一场单人游戏」

I don’t think life is that hard. I think we make it hard. One of the things I’m trying to get rid of is the word “should.”  Whenever the word “should” creeps up in your mind, it’s guilt or social programming. Doing something because you “should” basically means you don’t actually want to do it. It’s just making you miserable, so I’m trying to eliminate as many “shoulds” from my life as possible. 

• that adv. 那么
• eliminate [ɪˈlɪmɪneɪt] v. to completely get rid of something that is unnecessary or unwanted 消除，根除

The enemy of peace of mind is expectations drilled into you by society and other people. Socially, we’re told, “Go work out. Go look good.” That’s a multi- player competitive game. Other people can see if I’m doing a good job or not. We’re told, “Go make money. Go buy a big house.” Again, external multiplayer competitive game. Training yourself to be happy is completely internal. There is no external progress, no external validation. You’re competing against yourself—it is a single-player game.

• drill sth into sb  to keep telling someone something until they know it very well 向（某人）灌输（某事）

We’re like bees or ants. We are such social creatures, we’re externally programmed and driven. We don’t know how to play and win these single-player games anymore. We compete purely in multiplayer games.

The reality is life is a single-player game. You’re born alone. You’re going to die alone. All of your interpretations are alone. All your memories are alone. You’re gone in three generations, and nobody cares. Before you showed up, nobody cared. It’s all single player. 

Perhaps one reason why yoga and meditation are hard to sustain is they have no extrinsic value. Purely single-player games.
瑜伽和冥想很难坚持的一个重要原因也许就是，它们只关乎内心，没有外在价值，属于纯粹的单人游戏。

Buffett has a great example when he asks if you want to be the world’s best lover and known as the worst, or the world’s worst lover and known as the best?  in reference to an inner or external scorecard.

Exactly right. All the real score cards are internal. Jealousy was a very hard emotion for me to overcome. When I was young, I had a lot of jealousy. By and by, I learned to get rid of it. It still crops up every now and then. It’s such a poisonous emotion because, at the end of the day, you’re no better off with jealousy. You’re unhappier, and the person you’re jealous of is still successful or good-looking or whatever they are.

• by and by soon 不久，很快
• crop up  if a problem crops up, it happens or appears suddenly and in an unexpected way （问题）突然冒出来
• every now and then 偶尔，有时
• poisonous [ˈpɔɪzənəs] adj. 有毒的，有害的
• at the end of the day used to give your final opinion after considering all the possibilities 最终，到头来，不管怎么说
• be better off with sth 有...会更好

One day, I realized with all these people I was jealous of, I couldn’t just choose little aspects of their life. I couldn’t say I want his body, I want her money, I want his personality. You have to be that person. Do you want to actually be that person with all of their reactions, their desires, their family, their happiness level, their outlook on life, their self-image? If you’re not willing to do a wholesale, 24/7, 100 percent swap with who that person is, then there is no point in being jealous.

• poisonous [ˈpɔɪzənəs] adj. 有毒的，有害的

• at the end of the day used to give your final opinion after considering all the possibilities 最终，到头来，不管怎么说

• be better off with sth 有...会更好

• the outlook on sth 对...的看法，观点，态度

• swap sth with sb 与某人交换某物

One day, I realized with all these people I was jealous of, I couldn’t just choose little aspects of their life. I couldn’t say I want his body, I want her money, I want his personality. You have to be that person. Do you want to actually be that person with all of their reactions, their desires, their family, their hap- piness level, their outlook on life, their self-image? If you’re not willing to do a wholesale, 24/7, 100 percent swap with who that person is, then there is no point in being jealous.

Once I came to that realization, jealousy faded away because I don’t want to be anybody else. I’m perfectly happy being me. By the way, even that is under my control. To be happy being me. It’s just there are no social rewards for it. 

• fade away  to gradually disappear 逐渐消失

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