OSHBuddha:
你必须学习给予更多的爱。这不只是你的问题，这是每一个人的问题，只是程度多寡的不同。
每一个人都要被爱；那是一个错误的开始。
它开始于孩童时期，小孩子不会爱，无法说话，无法做任何事情，无法给予；他只能接受。小孩经验到的爱只是接受的那个部分：从母亲、父亲、哥哥、姊姊、客人、不认识的人身上获得爱，总之就是接收。所以第一个深植在他潜意识里面的经验是，他必须获得爱。
问题来了，因为每一个人都曾经是小孩，每一个人都同样有想要得到爱的急迫性；没有人是以不同的方式生出来的。所以大家都在要：给我们爱。可是却没有人给，因为别人也是这么长大的。
你必须有所警觉，这么一个出生时的事件不应该一直停留在你的意念中。
与其要求爱，不如开始给予爱。不要管能不能得到，就是给，我向你保证，你将会得到更多。
但你不是为了想着要得到爱而这么做；不是间接的在旁边瞧望你得到了没有。光是那样就已经够干扰。你就只是给予，因为分享爱是这么美好，获得爱还没这么棒。这是秘密之一。
分享爱真的是美好的经验，因为这么一来你成了国王。获得爱是非常小的经验，而且是乞丐的经验。不要当乞丐。至少就爱而言，当个国王，因为那是一种你内在源源不竭的品质。你可以尽你想要不断的给予。不要担心会用尽，不要担心哪一天你突然发现，天啊！我没有任何爱可以给了。
爱不是量；爱是品质，一种既定的范畴；如果你给予就会更成长，如果你占据就会枯萎。如果你对它吝啬，它会枯萎。所以，真的挥霍它。不要管是谁：我要把爱给有特定质量的特别的人。那真的是吝啬头脑的想法。你不知道你有这么多……你是即将下雨的云。
即将下雨的云不会考虑要把雨下到哪里去–岩石上、花园里、海洋中–都无所谓。它要卸下它自己的重担，那是一种无以言喻的轻松。
所以，第一个秘密是：不要要求，不要等待，如果有人要求你就给予。把爱给出去！
把你的爱给任何人，即使是不认识的人。重点不在你得给出非常有价值的东西，只是顺手帮个忙就很足够了。在二十四小时当中，不论你做什么都应该带着爱而做，那么你心中的痛就会消失。而且因为你会这么可爱，人们就会爱你。这是一个自然法则。你得到你所给予的。事实上，你会得到比你给予还多的东西。
学习给予，你会发现有这么多从不曾注意你、总是忽略你的人正带着爱朝向你。你的问题是，你有一颗充满爱的心，却一直吝啬给予，爱变成了心中的重担。你没有让心绽放反而把它藏起来，所以偶尔当你处于爱的片刻时，你觉得痛消失了。但是为什么要只是一下下呢？为什么不时时刻刻呢？
不只是针对人。你可以带着爱触摸椅子。事情依你而定，而不是对方。
然后你自己会有非常的放松并且让「极度自我」的这个负担消失而溶入整体中。
这当然是一种病，疾病这个英文的意义是：「dis-ease」–不安。不是生病，所以没有医生能够帮你。那根本就是你心的紧绷状态，心想要给很多。可能你有比别人更多的爱，可能你比较幸运，而你却把你的幸运让自己搞成极大的痛苦。分享它，不管分享给谁都好。
就是分享出去，然后你会找到无穷的平和与宁静。这就是你的静心。
静心可以透过许多不同的方向到达，或许这就是你的方向。
You have to learn to give more love. This is not only your problem; in varying degrees it is the problem of everybody.
Everyone must be loved;that was a false start.
It begins in childhood, a child cannotlove, cannot speak, cannot do anything, cannot give; he can onlyaccept. The love a child experiences is only the part of receiving:getting love from mothers, fathers, elder brothers, sisters, guests, peoplethey don’t know, in short is receiving. So the first experience deeplyrooted in his subconscious is that he must get love.
Here comes the problem, because everyonehas been a child, everyone has the same urgency to want love; no one is born ina different way. So everyone is asking: Give us love. But no one gaveit, because others also grew up like this.You must be vigilant, such a birth eventshould not stay in your mind forever.
Instead of asking forlove, it is better to start giving love. Don't care if you can get it,just give. I assure you that you will get more.
But you don't do it for the sake of gettinglove; you don't indirectly see if you get it. That alone is enough tointerfere. You just give, because sharing love is so beautiful, andgetting love is not so great. This is one of the secrets.
Sharing love is really a wonderfulexperience, because then you become a king. Getting love is a very smallexperience, and it is the experience of a beggar. Don't be a beggar. Atleast as far as love is concerned, be a king, because that is an inexhaustiblequality within you. You can give as much as you want. Don't worryabout running out, don't worry about one day you suddenly find out, myGod! I don't have any love to give.
Love is not a measure of energy; love is a quality, an established category; if you give it, it willgrow more, if you occupy it, it will wither. If you are stingy with it, itwill wither. So, really squander it. Don't care who it is: I want togive love to special people with certain qualities. That's really a stingyidea. You don't know you have so many...you are the cloud that is about torain.
The cloud that is about to rain will notconsider where it will rain—on the rocks, in the garden, in the ocean—itdoesn’t matter. It wants to unload its own burden, which is a kind ofunspeakable ease.
So, the first secret is: don’t ask, don’twait, give if someone asks you. Give out the love!
Give your love to anyone, even someone youdon’t know. The point is not that you have to give something veryvaluable, just a handy favor is enough. During the twenty-four hours,whatever you do should be done with love, then the pain in your heart willdisappear. And because you will be so cute, people will love you. Thisis a natural law. You get what you give. In fact, you will get more than you give.
Learn to give and you will find that thereare so many people who have never paid attention to you and always ignored youare turning towards you with love. Your problem is that you have a heartfull of love, but you have been stingy in giving, and love has become a burdenin your heart. Instead of letting the heart bloom, you hide it, sooccasionally when you are in a moment of love, you feel that the paindisappears. But why is it just a click? Why not all the time?
Not just forpeople. You can touch the chair with love. It depends on you, not theother party.
Then you will be very relaxed and let theburden of "extreme self" disappear and melt into the whole.
This is of course a kind of disease. TheEnglish meaning of disease is: "dis-ease"-uneasy. It's not sick,so no doctor can help you. That is simply the tightness of your heart, andyour heart wants to give a lot. Maybe you have more love than others,maybe you are more fortunate, but you make yourself extremely miserable by yourluck. Share it, no matter who you share it with.
Just share it, and thenyou will find infinite peace and tranquility. This is your meditation.
Meditation can be reached in many differentdirections, maybe this is your direction.BeyondPsychology
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