问题：为什么我无法停止吃东西？但是那不是问题所在；有某种东西、别的东西在这件事情后面。听起来很荒谬……
OSHBuddha：
不要判断。如果你说它荒谬，你就已经谴责了它，而那也许是问题的一部分。那并不是摆脱问题的方式。不要给予事情名称，而是要去了解它们。
如果一个人吃得更多，那就是一种特定潜伏情绪的症状。食物一直是一种爱的替代品。没有爱的人、以某种方式错过爱的生命的人，就会开始吃得更多；那是一种爱的替代品。
当小孩被生下来的时候，他的第一份爱与第一份食物是同样的东西--母亲。所以在食物与爱之间有很深的关连；事实上食物会先到然后才是爱。首先小孩会先吃母亲的奶，然后渐渐的他会察觉到母亲不只是食物；她也爱他。但是当然要那样子需要一定的成长。一开始小孩无法了解爱。他了解食物的语言，那是所有动物自然的原始语言。小孩带著饥饿而出生；他马上需要食物。直到许久之后才需要爱；爱并没有那么紧急。一个人可以一辈子没有爱而活，但是他无法没有食物而活，那就是麻烦之所在。
所以小孩会察觉到食物与爱之间的关连。渐渐的小孩也会感觉到，当母亲充满爱的时候，她也会以不同的方式喂奶。当她没有充满爱，而是愤怒、沮丧时，她就会非常不情愿的喂奶，或者根本不喂。所以小孩察觉到母亲充满爱的时候、可以得到食物的时候，就可以得到爱。当得不到食物的时候，小孩就会感觉得不到爱，而反过来说也是。这种事情就在无意识之中。
你怀念爱的生活，所以你就吃得更多，那就是一种替代品。你继续用食物填满你自己，而没有在内在留下空间。所以没有爱的问题，因为没有剩下的空间了。而和食物在一起事情会比较简单，因为食物是死的。你要吃多少就可以继续吃多少，食物无法拒绝你。如果你停止吃东西，食物无法说你在冒犯它。一个人还是食物的主人。
但是在爱当中你不再是主人了。另一个存在进入你的生命、一种依赖性进入了你的生命。你不再是独立的，而那就是恐惧之所在。自我想要独立，而且自我不会让你去爱；它只会让你吃得更多。如果你想要爱那么自我就必须被抛弃。
问题不在于食物；食物只是症候而已。所以我不会谈论食物、节食或去做什么事。因为那不会帮助你，你也不会成功。你可以尝试许多方法；那不会有帮助的。我反而会说忘掉食物，你想吃多少就继续吃多少
开始去过一种充满爱的生活、陷入爱河中、去找一个你可以爱的人，然后你马上就会看到你吃得并没有那么多。你有看过吗？如果你快乐你不会吃得太多。如果你沮丧你就会吃很多。人们以为当他们快乐时他们吃得太多，但是那是绝对没有道理的。一个快乐的人会觉得如此满足，以致于他觉得内在已经没有空间了。一个不快乐的人会继续把食物往他自己里面丢。
所以我完全不会去碰食物的话题……而你要继续照现在的样子过，不过你要先去找一个爱人。
Another sannyasin says: Why can't I stopeating?... But it's not the question. But behind that, something else. Itsounds ridiculous....
OSHBuddha：
No, don't judge. If you say ridiculous, youhave already condemned it -- and that may be part of the problem. That is notthe way to get out of any problem. Don't call things names -- try tounderstand.
If a person is eating more it is a symptomof a certain undercurrent. Food is always a substitute for love. People whodon't love, who somehow miss a life of love, start eating more -- it is alove-substitute.
When a child is born, his first love andhis first food are the same thing -- the mother. So there is a deep associationbetween food and love; in fact food comes first and then love follows. Firstthe child eats the mother, then by and by he becomes aware that the mother isnot just food -- she loves him too. But of course for that a certain Growth isnecessary. The first day the child cannot understand love. He understands thelanguage of food, the natural primitive language of all animals. The child isborn with hunger; food is needed immediately. Love will not be needed untillong after -- it is not so much of an emergency. One can live without loveone's whole life, but one cannot live without food -- that's the trouble.
So the child becomes aware of theassociation of food and love. By and by he feels too, that whenever the motheris very loving, she gives her breast in a different way. When she is notloving, but angry, sad, she gives the breast very reluctantly, or does not giveit at all. So the child becomes aware that whenever the mother is loving,whenever food is available, love is available. Whenever food is not available,the child feels love is not available, and vice versa. This is in theunconscious.
Somewhere you are missing a life of love soyou eat more -- that's a substitute. You go on filling yourself with food andleave no space inside. So there is no question of love, because there is nospace left. And with food things are simple because food is dead. You can go oneating as much as you want -- food cannot say no. If you stop eating, the foodcannot say that you are offending it. One remains a master with food.
But in love you are no longer the master.Another being enters into your life, a dependency enters into your life. Youare no longer independent, and that's the fear. Ego wants to be independent andego won't allow you to love; it will only allow you to eat more. If you want tolove then the ego has to be dropped.
It is not a question of food -- food issimply symptomatic. So I will not say anything about food, about dieting ordoing anything. Because that won't help you, you won't succeed. You can try athousand and one ways; that won't help. Rather, I will say forget about food,go on eating as much as you want.
Start a life of love, fall in love, findsomebody who you can love, and immediately you will see you are not eating somuch. Have you watched? -- if you are happy you don't eat too much. If you aresad you eat too much. People think that when they are happy they eat too much,but that is absolute nonsense. A happy person feels so fulfilled that he feelsno space inside. An unhappy man goes on throwing food into himself.
So I won't touch on food at all... and youcontinue as you are, but find a lover.
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