如果时光可以重来，你想给以前的自己什么样的建议呢？本文源于福布斯杂志里的女性领导力专题，内容为8位女性CEO分别想给年轻女孩们的8条建议，希望能够激励更多年轻女性。
我认为第6条让我深受启发，因为我认为我曾经也是情绪的受害者，有段时间甚至严重影响到我的生活。
直到我看了更多相关的书和文章，我才明白，我可以选择让情绪流经自己的身体，全面接纳它，而不是对此反应。
以下为文章的中英文对照：
1. “Don’t lose your curiosity”“Curiosity is a precious quality that drives humanity,” says Maria Moraes Robinson, CEO of business consultancy Holonomics and co-author of Deep Tech and the Amplified Organisation. “When it is genuine and authentic, it helps you to overcome obstacles in your path, showing you how to make progress in your life, opening doors to incredible opportunities. Never be afraid to embrace your curiosity and never lose your desire to always seek answers – people will respond to you and help you turn your curiosity into your vocation.”商业咨询公司 Holonomics首席执行官、 《深度科技与放大组织》 合著者 玛丽亚·莫拉斯·罗宾逊 (Maria Moraes Robinson) 表示：“好奇心是推动人类发展的重要品质。 当好奇心真诚而真实时，它会帮助你克服前进道路上的障碍，向你展示如何在生活中取得进步，为你打开通往难以置信的机会的大门。永远不要害怕拥抱你的好奇心，永远不要失去寻求答案的欲望——人们会回应你，并帮助你将好奇心转化为你的职业。”2. “You are more than enough”“You are more than others say you are and much more than you believe you can be,” observes Yetunde Hofmann, founder of pioneering black women’s leadership movement Solaris. “Do not allow yourself to be defined purely on the grounds of your gender or race. Never let anyone – no matter how powerful or career-instrumental they may be – steal your joy.”She adds: “Joy is that combination of knowing who you are and your own unique purpose in life; and the unconditional acceptance of all of who you are and who others are. It is appreciating that everyone, without exception, has something to contribute and has leadership in them.”“你比别人说的更优秀，也比你认为自己能做到的要优秀得多，”黑人女性领导力先锋运动 Solaris的创始人 Yetunde Hofmann 说道。“不要让自己被仅仅根据性别或种族来定义。永远不要让任何人——无论他们有多强大或在事业上有多重要——偷走你的快乐。”她补充道：“快乐是了解自己是谁、了解自己独特的人生目标，以及无条件接受自己和他人的一切。快乐是欣赏每个人，无一例外，都能有所贡献，并具有领导力。”3. “See thinking differently as a gift”“It truly doesn’t matter that the academic route was not best suited to you,” says Michelle Morgan, founder of sleepwear brand Pjoys and the author of Own Your Awkward. It’s not the only way. You are smart, you think differently and do differently to the ‘normal’ ways – this is a gift. Girl, you are as good as the boys. Often better! The uncomfortable moments you experience daily are shaping your character, strengthening your abilities and building your resilience. Reframe those awkward moments as gifts, as assets and as signals you’re about to be awesome. Keep going, keep growing and value yourself before anyone else.”“学术路线不适合你，这真的不重要，”睡衣品牌 Pjoys 创始人兼《Own Your Awkward》 一书的作者 Michelle Morgan 说道。这不是唯一的出路。你很聪明，你的想法和做法与‘正常’方式不同——这是一种天赋。女孩，你和男孩一样优秀。通常比男孩更优秀！你每天经历的不舒服时刻正在塑造你的性格，增强你的能力，培养你的韧性。把那些尴尬的时刻重新定义为礼物、资产和你即将变得出色的信号。继续前进，继续成长，你要比任何人都更看重自己。”4. “Learn to break things fast”“Get great at failing,” recommends Sonya Barlow, an award-winning entrepreneur and author of Unprepared to Entrepreneur.“Being an entrepreneur, running a business or starting anything new will come with failures and setbacks. Seeing failure as a temporary disruptor, and as an opportunity to grow, is liberating. It gives you the freedom to ask yourself, 'Why not?' Try, fail, learn and try again better.”“学会从失败中吸取教训”，屡获殊荣的企业家、《未做好创业准备》一书的作者 Sonya Barlow 建议道。“创业、经营企业或开创任何新事业都会遭遇失败和挫折。将失败视为暂时的干扰因素和成长机会，是一种解放。它让你可以自由地问自己‘为什么不呢？’尝试、失败、学习，然后再尝试，做得更好。”5. “Be honest with yourself about what makes you smile”“Stop listening to the many labels that society puts on us, particularly young girls,” says Jessica Robinson, founder of women investors community Moxie Future and author of Financial Feminism. “Enough is enough. Make and take the space to shine on your own terms. Know this … You have two priorities in your life: 1. Live by your own rules and 2. use that freedom and source of strength to be kind, compassionate and make the world a better place than when you arrived.”“不要再听信社会给我们贴上的各种标签，尤其是年轻女孩，”女性投资者社区 Moxie Future的创始人兼《金融女权主义》 一书的作者 杰西卡·罗宾逊 (Jessica Robinson) 说道。 “是时候适可而止了。创造并占据空间，按照自己的方式发光发热，你要明白这一点。你的生活中有两个优先事项：1. 按照自己的规则生活；2. 利用这种自由和力量源泉变得善良、富有同情心，让世界变得比你刚来时更美好。”6. “Don’t be a victim of your emotions”“I would tell my younger self that she does not have to be a victim to every thought or emotion,” says Dr Sam Mather, founder of leadership development consultancy RISEAbility and author of RISE: The Science & Practice of Creating & Developing your Cognitive Resources for Resilience and Wellbeing. “I would teach her that that the brain deceives us, albeit with good intentions. But it means that you do not have to believe everything your brain tells you. I would help her realise that emotions are a choice and help her manage the part of the brain that controls emotions. I would help her take control of who she wanted to be.”“我会告诉年轻时的自己，她没必要成为每种想法或情绪的受害者，”领导力发展咨询公司 RISEAbility的创始人、 《RISE：创造和发展认知资源以提高复原力和幸福感的科学与实践》一书 的作者 Sam Mather 博士说道。 “我会告诉她，尽管出于好意，但大脑会欺骗我们。但这意味着你不必相信大脑告诉你的一切。我会帮助她认识到情绪是一种选择，并帮助她管理大脑中控制情绪的部分。我会帮助她控制自己想成为的人。”“You aren’t a failure just because you aren’t in your sector’s list of ‘top ten young women’,” says Hedda Bird, CEO of 3C Performance Management and author of The Performance Management Playbook: 15 must-have conversations to motivate and manage your people. “You don’t have to do everything, succeed everywhere, before you are 30, or even 50. I always worried about failing. I’ve learned that failure is mostly sticking with something that diminishes you. Everything else is learning and growing. Success might be simply changing direction; it will look different at different times in your life. What success means to you will change. Pace yourself, enjoy the journey.”“即使你没有进入所在行业的‘十大年轻女性’名单，你也并不意味着失败，” 3C Performance Management首席执行官兼《绩效管理手册：激励和管理员工的 15 个必备对话》一书 的作者 Hedda Bird 说道。“你不必在 30 岁甚至 50 岁之前做所有事情、取得所有成功。我总是担心失败。我了解到，失败大多是坚持一些会削弱你的东西。其他一切都是学习和成长。成功可能只是改变方向；在你生命的不同时期，它会看起来不同。成功对你的意义会改变。放慢脚步，享受旅程。”8. “You will need a village”“When you decide to make a step change, whether it’s moving job, launching your own business, walking away from a relationship or starting a family, you will need the village,” says Georgina Atwell, founder of children’s book review platform Toppsta. “People to support but also to challenge you. Let them in and bring them with you. And never forget that your village will need you, too. Hold open the door for other women, support and challenge them. Be there when they need you. We are stronger together.”“当你决定做出重大改变时，无论是换工作、创业、结束一段恋情还是组建家庭，你都需要你社区的支持，”儿童图书评论平台 Toppsta的创始人乔治娜·阿特韦尔 (Georgina Atwell) 说道。“人们不仅会支持你，还会挑战你。让他们加入进来，带他们一起加入。永远不要忘记，你的社区也需要你。为其他女性敞开大门，支持她们，和她们一起迎接挑战。在她们需要你的时候，请陪伴她们。团结起来，我们就会更加强大。”
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