如果你能在我这里学到一件事情,那件事情就是:谨记你自己内心的追求,谨记你自己内心的向往。永远不要失去对它的关注,否则你将会不幸。当你不幸了,那时人们就会说:“静心吧,你会变得幸福!”他们会说:“专注,你会变得幸福;祈祷,你会变得幸福;出家、信教、成为一个基督教徒或印度教徒,你将会幸福!”全都是胡说八道。
变得幸福,静心会随之而来。变得幸福,宗教性会随之而来。幸福是一个基本条件。人们只有在不幸的时候才想到宗教,那他们的宗教就是虚假的。试着去理解你为什么不幸。
许多人来找我,他们说他们不幸福,他们希望我给他们一些静心方法。我说:“首要的、基本的事情是要理解你为什么不幸福。”如果不消除你不幸的根本原因,我可以给你静心方法,但那不会有太大的帮助——因为那些根本原因还在。
一个人也许是一个优秀、美丽的舞者,他却坐在办公室里处理成堆的文件。那里不可能跳舞。一个人也许享受在星空下起舞,但他却一直忙着赚钱。然后他说他不幸福:“给我某种静心方法。”我可以给他!但那个静心方法有什么用,有什么意义?他还是原来那个人:继续赚钱,继续在市场上竞争。静心方法也许能起到这种作用:让他放松一点,更好地去做这些蠢事。
这就是冥想在西方对于许多人的作用。这就是超觉静坐(transcendental meditation)的吸引力,因为马赫希瑜珈尊者一直说:“它让你工作更高效,使你更成功。如果你是个销售员,你会成为一个更成功的销售员。它会带给你效率。”美国人对于效率近乎痴迷。一个人可以为了效率放弃一切。
这就是冥想的吸引力所在。
是的,它对你有帮助。它可以让你放松一点,它是一种镇定剂。通过反复念诵一段咒语,通过一直重复一个词,它改变你大脑的化学成分。它就是一副镇定剂!一副有声的镇定剂。它帮助你缓解压力,这样明天在市场里你就可以更有效率、更有冲劲——但它并不会改变你,它并不是一种转变……
所以,我只会吸引那些真正勇敢、胆大妄为的人——他们不惜改变自己的生活模式,他们愿意赌上一切。其实,你也没有什么好赌的:只有你的不幸,你的痛苦。但人们甚至执著于痛苦。
我听说:
在一个偏远的训练营里,一队新兵顶着烈日完成一天的拉练后回到他们的营房。
“什么鬼日子!”一个新兵说:“远得要死,一个以为自己是匈奴王的中士,没有女人,没有酒,不能离开——最糟糕的是,我的靴子还小了两寸。”
“你不想穿这双靴子,老兄”,他边上的士兵说:“为什么不换一双?”
“怎么可能”,这个新兵回答:“脱下它们是我唯一的乐趣了!”
你有什么好赌的?只有痛苦。你唯一的乐趣就是谈论它。看看人们谈论他们的痛苦:他们变得多么快乐!他们为此付钱:他们去找心理医生谈论他们的痛苦——他们为此付钱!有人专心听,他们就很高兴。
人们反反复复地谈论他们的痛苦。他们甚至夸张、修饰,让痛苦显得更严重。他们让痛苦显得不同寻常。为什么要这样,你并没有什么好赌的。但人们放不下已知,放不下熟悉。
痛苦是他们知道的一切,那就是他们的人生。没有什么好失去的,但对于失去又怕得要死。
对我而言,幸福先来临,喜悦先来临。一种庆祝的心态先来临。一种肯定生活的哲学先来临。
享受吧!如果你不享受你的工作,那就换掉。不要等待!因为你所有的等待都是在等待戈多。戈多永远不会来。一个人只是消极等待,浪费着自己的生命。你在等谁,你在等什么?
如果你看到了这个要点:你在某种处世之道(pattern of life)之中受苦,然后所有老旧的传统都说是你有问题,而我会说是你的处世之道有问题。试着理解这种不同。你并没有错误!是你的处世之道,你习得的生活方式是错误的。你学习并内化的各种追求并不是你的追求,它们满足不了你的天命。它们与你格格不入。
乡村警察在路上拦下钓了一天鱼的儿子。
“运气如何,儿子?”他问。
“非常不错,爸爸”,小伙子一边说一边打开鱼篓,展示6条肥美的鳟鱼。
“太厉害了!你是在哪里抓到这些鱼的?”
“就在下面,爸爸。那里有条标有‘私家住宅’小路,你往下走,直到一块上面说‘擅闯者必究’的公告牌,再走一小段路,有一个池塘,坚着一块大牌子‘禁止捕鱼’——就是那个地方。”
记住这一点:没人可以替你做主。他们所有的戒律、所有的规则、所有的道德都是在扼杀你。你必须为自己决定。你必须掌握自己的生命。否则,生命一直敲你的门,而你永远不在——你总是在别的地方。
如果你本应成为一个舞者,生命就从那扇门进入,因为生命认为你现在肯定成了一个舞者。它在那里敲门,但你不在那里,你是个银行家。生命怎么会知道你会成为一个银行家?
神希望你成为什么人,祂就以那种方式来到你身上。祂只知道那个地址,但你永远不在那里,你在别的地方——隐藏在别人的面具后面,穿着别人的衣服,用着别人的名字。
神怎么找得到你?祂一直在寻找你。祂知道你的名字,但你已经遗忘了那个名字。祂知道你的住址,但你从来没有在那个地方。你让这个世界误导了你。
这发生过:
“昨晚我梦到自己是个小孩,”乔告诉阿尔:“我可以免费游玩迪士尼所有的项目。兄弟,多么美妙的时光!我不用挑选游玩项目,我把它们玩了个遍。”
“有意思,”他的朋友评论说。“我昨晚也做了个生动的梦。我梦到一个天仙般的金发美女来敲我的门,她的情欲把我撩得晕头转向。”
“我们正准备开始,另一个访客,一个风情万种的褐发女子出现了,也想和我亲热!”
“哇,”乔插嘴说:“兄弟,我也想在那里!为什么你不叫上我?”
“我叫了”,阿尔回答说:“但你妈说你在迪士尼。”
神找到你只有一种方式。只有一种方式才能让祂找到你,那就是你的内在绽放了,就像祂所希望的那样。除非你发现你的自发性,除非你发现你的本色,否则你不可能幸福。如果你不能幸福,你就不能静心。
为什么人们会有这种观念——静心带来幸福?事实上,每当你发现一个幸福的人,你总是会发现一颗平静的心。它们两者是相关的。每当你发现一个人身上有美丽的静心气场,你总是会发现他无比幸福——充满喜乐,光芒四射。它们变成一体两面。
人们认为当你是静心的,幸福就会来临。其实反之亦然:当你幸福,静心就会来临。
但是变得幸福是艰难的,而学习静心是容易的。变得幸福意味着你生活方式的一次剧变、突变,因为没有时间可以浪费了。一个突变——一声惊雷——一个中断。
那就是我说的桑雅生:与过去决裂。一声惊雷,旧有的你死去了,你焕然一新,从头开始。你再度出生了。你重新开启你的人生,仿佛你的父母、社会、国家没有强加任何模式给你。你活出本来的你,仿佛没有人误导你一样。但过去的你被误导了。
你必须放下所有这些加在你身上的模式,你必须找到自己内在的火焰。
IF YOU CAN learn one thing with me, then that one thing is: Be alert, aware, about your own inner motives, about your own inner destiny. Never lose sight of it, otherwise you will be unhappy. And when you are unhappy, then people say: "Meditate and you will become happy!" They say: "Concentrate and you will become happy; pray and you will become happy; go to the temple, be religious, be a Christian or a Hindu and you will be happy!" This is all nonsense.
Be happy! and meditation will follow. Be happy, and religion will follow. Happiness is a basic condition. People become religious only when they are unhappy -- then their religion is pseudo. Try to understand why you are unhappy.
Many people come to me and they say they are unhappy, and they want me to give them some meditation. I say: First, the basic thing is to understand why you are unhappy. And if you don't remove those basic causes of your unhappiness, I can give you a meditation, but that is not going to help very much -- because the basic causes remain there.
The man may have been a good, beautiful dancer, and he is sitting in an office, piling up files. There is no possibility for dance. The man may have enjoyed dancing under the stars, but he is simply going on accumulating a bank-balance. And he says he is unhappy: "Give me some meditation." I can give him! -- but what is that meditation going to do? what is it supposed to do? He will remain the same man: accumulating money, competitive in the market. The meditation may help in this way: it may make him a little more relaxed to do this nonsense even better.
That's what TM is doing to many people in the West -- and that is the appeal of transcendental meditation, because Maharishi Mahesh Yogi goes on saying, "It will make you more efficient in your work, it will make you more successful. If you are a salesman, you will become a more successful salesman. It will give you efficiency." And American people are almost crazy about efficiency. You can lose everything just for being efficient. Hence, the appeal.
Yes, it can help you. It can relax you a little -- it is a tranquillizer. By constantly repeating a mantra, by continuously repeating a certain word, it changes your brain chemistry. It is a tranquillizer! a sound-tranquillizer. It helps you to lessen your stress so tomorrow in the marketplace you can be more efficient, more capable to compete -- but it doesn't change you. it is not a transformation.
Just the other day, a small sannyasin asked me -- whenever he comes he asks beautiful questions -- very small, maybe seven years old. When he took sannyas... he must be courageous -- he took sannyas before his mother decided to take sannyas; he took sannyas before his father decided to take sannyas. Has an individuality of his own. He took sannyas and I asked him. "Have you something to say?"
He said, "Yes, what group should I do?"
And the other night he came and I asked, "Now, what do you have to say?"
He said, "What do you think about Maharishi?" A seven year-old child!
I told him, "Maharishi is a good man, a very nice guy -- but doing very ordinary work."
You can repeat a mantra, you can do a certain meditation; it can help you a little bit here and there -- but-it can help you to remain whatsoever you are. It is not a transformation.
Hence, my appeal is only for those who are really daring, dare-devils who are ready to change their very pattern of life, who are ready to stake everything -- because in fact you don't have anything to put at the stake: only your unhappiness, your misery. But people cling even to that.
I have heard:
In a certain remote training camp, a squad of rookies had just returned to their billet after a day's route-march under the boiling sun.
"What a life!" said one new soldier. "Miles from anywhere, a sergeant who thinks he's Attila the Hun, no women, no booze, no leave -- and on top of all that. my boots are two sizes too small."
"You don't want to put up with that, chum," said his neighbor. "Why don't you put in for another pair?"
"Not likely." came the reply. "Taking'em off is the only pleasure I've got!"
What else do you have to put at the stake? Just the misery. The only pleasure that you have got is talking about it. Look at people talking about their misery: how happy they become! They pay for it: they go to psychoanalysts to talk about their misery -- they pay for it! Somebody listens attentively, they are very happy.
People go on talking about their misery again and again and again. They even exaggerate, they decorate, they make it look bigger. They make it look bigger than life-size. Why? Nothing do you have to put at the stake. But people cling to the known, to the familiar. The misery is all that they have known -- that is their life. Nothing to lose, but so afraid to lose.
With me, happiness comes first, joy comes first. A celebrating attitude comes first. A life-affirming philosophy comes first. Enjoy! If you cannot enjoy your work, change. Don't wait! because all the time that you are waiting you are waiting for Godot. Godot is never to come. One simply waits -- and wastes one's life. For whom, for what are you waiting?
If you see the point, that you are miserable in a certain pattern of life, then all the old traditions say: you are wrong. I would like to say: The pattern is wrong. Try to understand the difference of emphasis. You are not wrong! Just your pattern, the way you have learnt to live is wrong. The motivations that you have learnt and accepted as yours are not yours -- they don't fulfill your destiny. They go against your grain, they go against your element.
The village policeman stopped his son on the road as he saw him going home after a day's fishing.
"Any luck, son?" he asked.
"Yes, Dad," said the lad, opening his basket to show half a dozen lovely trout.
"That's marvellous! Where did you catch all those?"
"Just down there, Dad. There's a narrow lane marked 'Private' and you go down there until you come to a notice saying 'Trespassers Will Be Prosecuted'. A few yards further on there's a pool with a big sign 'No Fishing Allowed' -- and that's the place."
Remember it: nobody else can decide for you. All their commandments, all their orders, all their moralities, are just to kill you. You have to decide for yourself. You have to take your life in your own hands. Otherwise, life goes on knocking at your door and you are never there -- you are always somewhere else.
If you were going to be a dancer, life comes from that door because life thinks you must be a dancer by now. It knocks there but you are not there -- you are a banker. And how is life expected to know that you would become a banker? God comes to you the way He wanted you to be; He knows only that address -- but you are never found there, you are somewhere else, hiding behind somebody else's mask, in somebody else's garb, under somebody else's name.
How do you expect God to find you? He goes on searching for you. He knows your name, but you have forgotten that name. He knows your address, but you never lived at that address. You allowed the world to distract you.
It happened:
"I dreamt I was a kid last night," Joe was telling Al, "and I had a free pass to all the rides at Disneyland. Boy, what a time I had! I didn't have to choose which rides to go on -- I rode them all."
"That's interesting," remarked his friend. "I had a vivid dream last night too. I dreamt a beautiful dreamgirl blonde knocked on my door and knocked me out with her desire. Then just as we were getting started, another visitor, a gorgeous well-stacked brunette came in and wanted me too!"
"Wow," interrupted Joe. "Boy, would I have loved to be there! Why didn't you call me?"
"I did," responded Al. "And your mother told me you were at Disneyland."
God can find you only in one way, only in one way can He find you, and that is your inner flowering: as He wanted you to be. Unless you find your spontaneity, unless you find your element, you cannot be happy. And if you cannot be happy, you cannot be meditative.
WHY DID this idea arise in people's minds? that meditation brings happiness. In fact, wherever they found a happy person they always found a meditative mind -- both things got associated. Whenever they found the beautiful meditative milieu surrounding a man, they always found he was tremendously happy -- vibrant with bliss, radiant. They became associated. They thought: Happiness comes when you are meditative. It was just the other way round: meditation comes when you are happy.
But to be happy is difficult and to learn meditation is easy. To be happy means a drastic change in your way of life, an abrupt change -- because there is no time to lose. A sudden change -- a sudden clash of thunder -- a discontinuity.
That's what I mean by sannyas: a discontinuity with the past. A sudden clash of thunder, and you die to the old and you start afresh, from ABC. You are born again. You again start your life as you would have done if there had been no enforced pattern by your parents, by your society, by the state; as you would have done, must have done, if there had been nobody to distract you. But you were distracted.
You have to drop all those patterns that have been forced on you, and you have to find your own inner flame.
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