想阅读前文，请点击；一旦你了解死亡不是生命对立面而是你一个朋友，突然间你被蜕变，你不再与任何人作对，你是放松的
人就是意识，当人变得有意识的那一刻，他也会意识到生命的终结——那就是他将会死去。他意识到明天，意识到时间，意识到时间的流逝——那么或迟或早终点会到来。他越有意识，死亡就越是一个问题，唯一的问题。如何避免呢？那就是错误使用意识的方式。就像你给孩子一个望远镜，孩子不知道怎样使用它，他很可能从反面来看。
意识就是一个望远镜，你可能会从反面来看。反面也有它的好处——那就是制造更多的麻烦。透过望远镜的反面来看，你会发现很多好处都是可能的，短焦距会带来很多利益。有时间意识的人与没有时间意识的人相比，他们会更有收获。有死亡意识的人与没有死亡意识的人相比，他们会获取更多物质。那就是为什么西方一直在累积物质财富，而东方却一直保持贫穷。如果你没有死亡意识，谁会关心那些？
人们一个片刻接着一个片刻地活着，就好像明天根本不存在。谁去累积？为了什么？今天如此美好，为什么不庆祝？当明天到来我们自然会看到。
在西方，他们无止境地在积累财富，因为他们的时间意识是如此强烈。他们把自己的整个生命都贬低成了各种东西，物质——如摩天大楼一般。他们积累了很多财富......那就是从反面看的好处。
他们只能看到近处确定的事情，短焦距的呈现，看不到远处。他们的眼光跟瞎子差不多，没办法看见远方。他只盯着现在能得到的好处，完全想不到最后可能会付出巨大的代价。从长焦距来看，这些好处可能并不是好处。你可以建个大房子，但等房子建好的时候你也差不多该去了，可能根本住不上。你本来应该住在一个美丽的小房子里，哪怕是个小屋也没关系，但你觉得你应该住在宫殿里。现在宫殿落成了，但人也不在了。他不在了。
人们累积财富是以牺牲自己为代价的。最后，终于，有一天，他们意识到他们追逐的是没用的东西，却失去了自己。代价是巨大的，但现在已于事无补，时间过去了。
如果你是时间意识的，你会疯狂地累积物质，你会将你全部的生命能量都转化为物质。意识到全焦距的人会尽其所能享受当下时刻，他会漂浮。他不会关心明天，因为他知道明天永远不会来。他深深地知道最终只有一件事要实现——那就是他自己。
活，全然地活，这样你就会与自己建立连接......没有其它的办法来与自己连接。你活的越深入，你就能越深入地了知自己，在关系里，在单独里。你进入关系越深，进入爱越深，你就越深地了解自己。爱变成一面镜子。而一个从来没爱过的人无法单独，顶多他会孤独。
一个爱过的人，了解关系的人，才能够单独。现在他的单独有一种完全不同的品质，那不是孤独。他经历过一段关系，他的爱满足了，他了解对方，也透过对方了解自己。现在他能够直接地了解自己，现在镜子不需要了。只需想想一个从来没照过镜子的人，闭着眼睛能看见自己的脸吗？不可能。他甚至无法想象自己的脸，无法静心冥想它。
但一个遇到过镜子的人，照过镜子的人，能够透过镜子知道自己的脸，即便闭上眼睛也能在心里看到自己的脸。那就是在关系里发生的。当一个人进入一段关系，那个关系就是镜子，反映出他自己，他会知道他从来不知道的自己。
透过对方，他知道了他的愤怒、贪婪、嫉妒、占有、慈悲、爱和上千种情绪。透过对方他看到了多变的天气，渐渐地有一个时刻会到来，现在他能够单独，能够闭上眼睛直接看到自己的意识。那就是为什么我说对于一个从来没有爱过的人来说，静心是非常非常难的。
深爱过的人能够进入深度静心，在关系里爱过的人现在可以站成自己独立的姿态。现在他变得成熟了，现在对方不需要了。如果对方在，他们可以分享，但需要消失了，现在他们的关系里没有依赖。
最终，意识会意识到死亡。如果意识最终意识到死亡，恐惧会生起。那个恐惧会在你心里制造持续的逃避，那么你就会逃避生命。不管哪里有生命你都会逃避它，因为只要有生命存在那就是一个暗示，一个对死亡的瞥见。一个过度恐惧死亡的人是无法与人相爱的，他们会爱物质——物质永远不会死，因为它们从来没活过。
你可以永远永远地拥有那些东西，而且你还可以替换它们。如果一台汽车报废了，你可以再换一台一模一样的。但你不能置换一个人——如果你的妻子死了，永远地死了，你可以再娶一个，但没有人能替代她——不管好坏，再也没有一模一样的女人。如果你的孩子死了，你可以领养一个， 但那个关系的品质和自己的孩子肯定是不一样的。人们过度地恐惧死亡，于是也开始恐惧生命。然后就累积东西：一个大宫殿，大汽车，数百万美元、卢比，这个那个，那些永远不会死的东西。一朵玫瑰会死，但一个卢比不会。但他们不关心玫瑰，只是不断地累积卢比。
一个卢比永远不会死，它几乎就是不朽的，但是一朵玫瑰......早上它还鲜活灵动，晚上就已不复存在了。他们开始害怕玫瑰，不去看它。或者想看的时候就去买塑料花，塑料花是好的，跟塑料花在一起你就很自在，因为它有一种不朽的意味。它们可以永远地存在，永远。一朵真实的玫瑰——早上还如此鲜活，到晚上就已经消失了，花瓣飘零落入泥土，回归了同一个源头。它来自大地，短暂地绽放，将芬芳释放给整个存在。然后使者离开了，信息已经传达了，它安静地回归大地，没有一滴眼泪，没有一丝挣扎，消失得无影无踪。你看过花瓣从花朵落到地上吗？那是多么美多么优雅的降落，没有执著，哪怕一个片刻都不曾执著。只是一阵轻风到来，整朵花都落到地上，回归源头。
一个害怕死亡的人也会害怕生命，害怕爱，因为爱就是一朵花——爱不是卢比。一个害怕生命的人会进入婚姻但永远不会进入爱。婚姻就像是一个卢比，爱就像一朵玫瑰。它就在那里，可能又不在了，你不能确定，没有法律规定它必须是不朽的。婚姻是要去紧抓的东西，它有证书，它的后台是法院。警力强制，后面是总统，一旦有什么不对劲，它们全都会跳出来。
但是爱......当然，玫瑰也有它的力量，但玫瑰不是警察，它们不是总统，它们不能保护。
爱来来去去，婚姻只来不去。它是一个死的现象，是一个架构。真是很难相信人们愿意活在架构里。恐惧，对死亡的恐惧，他们从各个角度扼杀了所有死亡的可能性。他们在自己周围创造出一种幻象，一切都会保持不变，一切都是安全有保障的。隐藏在这个安全性的背后，他们可以感受到一种确定的安全感，但那是愚蠢的，白痴。什么都不能拯救他们，死亡会来敲他们的门，他们会死的。
意识有两种视角。一种是害怕生命，因为透过生命死亡会到来。另一种是深深地热爱生命，因此你也会热爱死亡，因为它是你内心最深的角落。第一种态度来自于思考，第二种态度来自于静心。第一种态度来自于过度的思考，第二种态度来自于没有思想的头脑，来自于无念。意识可以被贬为思想，思想可以被融解再度成为意识。
Man is conscious. The moment man becomes conscious he becomes conscious of the end also--that he is going to die. He becomes conscious of tomorrow, conscious of time, conscious of the passing of time--then sooner or later the end will come near. The more he becomes conscious, the more death becomes a problem, the only problem. How to avoid it? This is using consciousness in a wrong way. It is just as if you have given a child a telescope, and the child doesn’t know how to use it. He can look into the telescope from the wrong end.
Consciousness is a telescope, you can look through it from the wrong end. And the wrong end has some benefits of its own--that creates more trouble. Through the wrong end of the telescope you can see that many benefits are possible; in the short range many benefits are possible. People who are time conscious gain something in comparison to people who are not time conscious. People who are death conscious attain many things in comparison to those who are not death conscious. That’s why the West goes on accumulating material wealth and the East has remained poor. If you are not death conscious, who bothers?
People live moment to moment as if the tomorrow doesn’t exist. Who accumulates? For what? Today is so beautiful, why not celebrate it, and we will see about tomorrow when it comes.
In the West they have accumulated infinite wealth because they are so time conscious. They have reduced their whole life into things, material things-- skyscrapers. They have attained much wealth... that is the benefit of looking from the wrong end. They can see only certain things which are close, shortrange, they cannot see farther away. Their eyes have become like those of a blind man who cannot see farther away. He looks at just whatsoever he can gather right now, without thinking that it may be at a very great cost in the end. In the long range this benefit may not prove a benefit. You can make a big house, but by the time it is built you are ready to go; you couldn’t live in it at all. You could have lived in a small house beautifully, even a cottage would have done, but you thought that you would live in a palace. Now the palace is ready but the man is gone. He is not there.
People accumulate wealth at the cost of their own self. Finally, eventually, one day, they become aware that they have lost themselves and that they have purchased useless things. The cost was great, but now nothing can be done, the time is past.
If you are time conscious you will be mad about accumulating things, you will transform your whole life energy into things. A man who is conscious of the whole range will enjoy this moment as much as he can. He will float. He will not bother about the tomorrow because he knows tomorrow never comes. He knows deeply that finally only one thing has to be attained--that is one’s own self.
Live, and live so totally that you come in contact with yourself... And there is no other way to come in contact with yourself. The deeper you live, the deeper you know yourself, in relationship, in aloneness. The deeper you move in relationship, in love, the deeper you know. Love becomes a mirror. And one who has never loved cannot be alone, he can at the most be lonely.
One who has loved and known a relationship, can be alone. Now his aloneness has a totally different quality to it, it is not loneliness. He has lived in a relationship, fulfilled his love, known the other, and known himself through the other. Now he can know himself directly, now the mirror is not needed. Just think of someone who has never come across a mirror. Can he close his eyes and see his face? Impossible. He cannot even imagine his face, he cannot meditate on it. But a man who has come to a mirror, looked into it, known his face through it, can close his eyes and see the face inside. That’s what happens in relationship. When a person moves into a relationship, the relationship mirrors, reflects himself, and he comes to know many things that he never knew existed in him.
Through the other he comes to know his anger, his greed, his jealousy, his possessiveness, his compassion, his love and thousands of moods of his being. Many climates he encounters through the other. By and by a moment comes when he can now be alone; he can close his eyes and know his own consciousness directly. That’s why I say that for people who have never loved meditation is very, very difficult.
Those who have loved deeply can become deep meditators; those who have loved in a relationship are now in a position to be by themselves. Now they have become mature, now the other is not needed. If the other is there they can share, but the need has disappeared; now there is no dependence.
Consciousness becomes conscious of death in the end. If consciousness becomes conscious of death in the end a fear arises. That fear creates a continuous escaping within you. Then you are escaping from life; wherever there is life you are escaping because wherever there is life a hint, a glimpse of death comes. People who are too afraid of death never fall in love with persons, they fall in love with things--things never die because they have never lived.
You can have things for ever and ever and, moreover, they are replaceable. If one car goes you can replace it by another car of exactly the same make. But you cannot replace a person--if your wife dies, she dies for ever. You can have another wife but no other woman will ever replace her--for good or for bad, no other woman can be the same woman. If your child dies you can adopt another, but no adopted child will have the same quality of relationship that your own child can have. The wound remains, it cannot be healed. People who are too afraid of death become afraid of life. Then they accumulate things: a big palace, a big car, millions of dollars, rupees, this and that, things which are deathless. A rupee is more deathless than a rose. They are not bothered about roses, they only go on accumulating rupees.
A rupee never dies, it is almost immortal, but a rose... In the morning it was alive and by the evening it is no more. They become afraid of roses, they don’t look at them. Or sometimes, if the desire arises, they purchase plastic flowers. They are good. You can be at ease with plastic flowers because they give a sense of immortality. They can be there for ever and for ever and for ever. A real rose--in the morning it is so alive, by the evening it is gone, the petals have settled on the soil, it has returned to the same source. From the earth it comes, flowers a while, and sends its fragrance to the whole of existence. Then mission done, message given, it falls silently back to the earth and disappears with no a single tear, with no struggle. Have you seen petals falling down onto the earth from a flower? How beautifully and gracefully they fall, with no clinging; for not even a single moment do they try to cling. A breeze just comes and the whole flower has gone to the earth, returned to the source.
A man who is afraid of death will be afraid of life, will be afraid of love, because love is a flower--love is not a rupee. A man who is afraid of life may get married but he will never fall in love. Marriage is like a rupee, love is like a rose flower. It is there, it may not be there, but you cannot be certain about it, it has no legal immortality about it. A marriage is something to cling to, it has a certificate, a court behind it. It has the force of the police and the president behind it and they will all come if something goes wrong.
But with love... There is the force of roses of course, but roses are not policemen, they are not presidents, they cannot protect.
Love comes and goes, marriage simply comes. It is a dead phenomenon, it is an institution. It is simply unbelievable that people like to live in institutions. Afraid, afraid of death, they have killed all possibilities of death from everywhere. They are creating an illusion around them that everything is going to stay as it is. Everything is secure and safe. Hidden behind this security they feel a certain security, but that is foolish, stupid. Nothing can save them; death will come and knock at their doors and they will die.
Consciousness can take two views. One is to be afraid of life because through life comes death. Another is to love life so deeply that you start loving death also, because it is the innermost core of it. The first attitude comes from thinking, the second attitude comes from meditation. The first attitude comes from too many thoughts, the second attitude comes from a thoughtless mind, from a no-mind. Consciousness can be reduced to thoughts; thoughts can be melted down again into consciousness.
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