小学老师的告诫 让娃学霸路上不“费劲”

教育   2024-10-19 08:30   美国  

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妈妈导语

我有一双美国出生长大的儿女,从顶尖私立寄宿高中毕业,到迈入大学名校深造,先后再进入谷歌·脸书等高科技公司,现在从事着他们热爱的事业。

孩子们从小就表现出自立自强的精神,尤其在学业上,从不需要父母操心,并且无论做什么事,且都低调踏实。

作为母亲,我感到无比幸运和感恩。然而,这样的品格究竟源自何方?

虽然可以列出一系列的原因,比如家庭的教育方式、孩子们的个性特质、我们所拥有的资源等,但我认为这些原因本身并没有普遍的指导意义,因为每个家庭和每个孩子都是独一无二的,所面临的环境和期望也不尽相同。

最近我在整理孩子们的书籍时,偶然发现了一本由《少年儿童出版社》出版的中美儿童作文获奖汇编集。

我记得儿子的一篇文章曾被收入其中,但却早已忘记了文章的具体内容,只依稀记得他在美国中文学校的老师对这篇原本是孩子们的课堂作业,评价颇高。

遗憾的是,这本书的目录设计不太好,只有文章题目而没有标注作者姓名。

我耐心地一页页翻阅这本240多页的书籍,直到第149页时,一篇熟悉而动人的文章映入眼帘,这正是我儿子在六年级时写的作文。

我顿时感到震撼,不仅为他当年的才思,更为那份久违的温情所感动。

少年时代的儿女


当我考试失败时

作者  Jonathan

中文 vs 英文



虽然我们不总是追求完美,但没有人愿意经历考试失败。然而,这次失败却赐予我人生中一次深刻的教训,令我受益终生。


事情发生在我三年级的图书馆课上。


老师让我们每个人选择一本书,为即将到来的考试做准备。


全班二十个同学兴奋地开始寻找书籍,大家都挤在一起挑书,我却悄悄走到一个没有人的角落,偶然发现了一本名为《本与我》的书。






我看着封面,好奇地想:“那是本杰明·富兰克林和一只小老鼠吗?他们在一起做什么?”


封面似乎在暗示,这位美国著名科学家的所有发明灵感都是来自这只小老鼠。


带着强烈的好奇心,我借了这本书。


故事太有趣了,我被逗得哈哈大笑,完全忘记了即将到来的考试。


考试的日子很快到了,考试内容是根据你自己阅读的那本书,回答一些问题。


成绩很快出来了。


这是我人生中第一次不及格,我感到非常沮丧。


不仅如此,我害怕回家后还要面对的事情——父母必须在成绩单上签字,我担心其后果。


现在只有上帝知道我会受到怎样的惩罚。


果不其然,当妈妈看到我的成绩单时,我觉得天都塌了。她的愤怒和失望远远超过了我的想象。


我躲回到自己的房间,心中充满了焦虑。


如果现在发生地震,谁还会顾得上救我?


突然,四周一片寂静。


我偷偷看了妈妈一眼,原以为她会更加生气,但让我惊讶的是,她正认真地盯着成绩单上的说明文字。“乔纳森?这是怎么回事?” 她的语气稍微缓和了一些。“你竟然参加了为七年级学生准备的考试题目,为什么?”


“我不知道。”我喃喃道,我自己也很困惑,根本无法解释。  


我知道她一定会打电话给老师去问询,不过我也觉得,她对老师的态度会一定比对我温和一些,不论她有多生气。


接下来发生的事情让我意想不到。


我的老师丽贝卡·利伯曼对我妈妈解释道:“每个学生阅读的书都是他们自己做出的选择。虽然这可能看起来有趣,但他们必须对自己的选择承担相应的责任。如果乔纳森对他选择的书感到不舒服,他应该主动找我来寻求帮助。既然他没有提出过任何异议,那就意味着他接受了他自己的选择。”


接着,丽贝卡老师说的告诫,至今让我铭记在心:“乔纳森是学校里最优秀的学生之一,但他需要经历失败。如果一个人从未失败过,怎么能真正理解失败的意义呢?我并不认为一次不好的成绩是坏事。人生是一段漫长的旅程,重要的不是你如何成功,而是你如何面对失败,在失败中学习并成长。”


我的妈妈被丽贝卡老师的话深深感动,而我也受到了巨大的启发。


从那一刻起,我明白了,这次失败并不是终点,而是让我成长为一个有责任感的人的开始。




结语


我自己已经在国内出版了七本畅销书,但当我读到孩子六年级的那篇栩栩如生的作文时,依然感到无比惊喜!或许这不仅仅是母亲的骄傲,更是一种深深的感恩——感恩孩子在成长的路上,遇到了那些唤醒灵魂的老师,为孩子们的人生赋予了如此深刻的智慧与启迪!



在孩子的学业上,我们作为父母很少介入,尤其是在关键的大学申请阶段。即使我们参与其中,最终的决定权仍然掌握在孩子自己手中。


对于许多有主见的孩子来说,谁愿意完全听从父母的教导呢?


在儿女上学期间,有时,看着他们的选择显得那么幼稚,我内心不免有些无奈,然而,作为父母,我们还必须忍耐克制着自己。因为有一点至关重要,那就是他们从小就明白,自己的决定必须承担相应的责任。


总而言之,当孩子们将学业视为自己义不容辞的责任时,作为家长的我们,还有必要再费心吗?






When I Failed the Test


Though we don't always expect perfection, no one likes to fail a test. However, my failure turned out to be a profound lesson, one that I will carry with me for the rest of my life.


It happened when I was in 3rd grade during a library class. Our teacher instructed us to pick any book to read for an upcoming test. Excited, the twenty of us eagerly began searching for our selections. While the others buzzed around the bookshelves, I quietly wandered off to a corner. There, I stumbled upon a book titled Ben and Me. 






“Is that Benjamin Franklin with a little mouse? What are they doing together?” I wondered as I looked at the cover, which suggested that all of Franklin's inventions were inspired by this tiny mouse. Intrigued, I decided to borrow the book. The story was so amusing that I became entirely engrossed, laughing the whole way through. In my delight, I forgot about the test entirely.


The day of the test came and went, and I received my grade. It was the first time in my life that I had failed. I was devastated. Not only was I upset, but I also dreaded what awaited me at home—my parents had to sign the paper, and I feared the consequences. Only God knew what kind of punishment I was about to face. When my mom saw the grade, I thought the world was about to end. Her anger and frustration were far worse than I had anticipated.


I retreated to my room, consumed by anxiety. What if an earthquake hit right now? Would anyone bother saving me? Suddenly, everything was silent. I glanced at my mom, expecting more anger, but to my surprise, she was staring intently at the paper. “Jonathan? What is going on here?" Her tone had softened slightly. "You took a test meant for a 7th grader. Why?"


“I didn’t know," I mumbled, still too confused to explain myself. I knew she would call my teacher, but I also had a feeling she would be kinder to her than she had been to me, no matter how upset she was.


What happened next was unexpected. My teacher, Mrs. Lieberman, explained to my mom, “Each student made their own choice. While it might have seemed fun, they must also accept the responsibility that comes with it. If Jonathan felt uncomfortable with the book, he should have come to me and asked for help. Since he didn’t, it meant he was okay with the situation.”


Then Mrs. Lieberman added something that would stay with me forever: “Jonathan is one of the top students in school, but he needs to fail sometimes. How can he ever understand the true meaning of failure if he never experiences it? I don’t believe that a bad grade is a bad thing. Life is a long journey, and it's not just about success. It's about learning how to face failure, grow from it, and become stronger."



童年时代的儿女



My mother was deeply moved by Mrs. Lieberman’s words, and I was inspired as well. From that moment on, I realized that my failure was not the end, but a step towards growing into a responsible person.



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