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这届家长，太难了
比起上一代家长，生活条件明明大幅提高了，
育儿资讯和教育资源明明更加丰富了，
然而，我们面对的问题却复杂多了。
在鸡娃成风的内卷浪潮中，
不仅要盯学业、抓特长，
孩子的心理健康，更已成为另一重中之重
《2023年度中国精神心理健康》蓝皮书显示
我国学生心理健康问题日趋低龄化
以抑郁症为例，
平均10名小学生中就有1名检出抑郁症
初中（30%）和高中（40%）抑郁检出率递增，
伴随孤独感、手机依赖、焦虑情绪……
看似什么都不缺的生活，
却暗藏着各种心理和精神上的隐患，
倾听孩子们的心声，刻不容缓。
应对青少年心理健康困境，
AISL哈罗学校坚持“以学生为中心”的宗旨。
培养学生幸福感（student wellbeing）
作为哈罗教育的核心
贯穿在教学、课外活动、家校合作等各方面
本期，我们就邀来
AISL哈罗学校的多位心理咨询专家
从“拖延老大难”、“全家抗焦虑”、“青春期应对”等
一系列话题展开，和家长们一起“自救”
家校携手，更科学、轻松地守护孩子身心健康发展！
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It is a challenging time for parents.
Despite higher living standards and
more resources available for parenting and education,
parents are facing more complex problems.
In the hyper-competitive environment in which children grow up, parents need to focus not only on academics and finding their child's strengths.
It is also important to look after their mental wellbeing.
The 2023 Blue Book on China's National Mental
Health reveals that a growing number of young students in China are facing mental health issues.
For example, 1 in 10 primary school students has been diagnosed with depression.
Among junior and senior high schoolers, the percentage is higher at 30% and 40%, respectively, due to loneliness, mobile phone addiction, anxiety...
Even if we live a life of abundance,
mental health problems can catch us unaware.
Therefore, it's more urgent than ever to listen to your child's inner voice.
In addressing youths' mental health challenges,
AISL Harrow Schools remain committed to its
"Student-centred" pedagogy.
Ensuring student wellbeing
is at the core of the Harrow education, embedded in various aspects such as teaching, co-curricular activities, and home-school collaboration etc.
This week, we've invited counselling experts
from AISL Harrow Schools to help parents navigate a series of topics, from procrastination, facing anxiety as a family,
to handle the adolescent phase.
Let's work together to safeguard your child's wellbeing with more effective solutions and less anxiety!
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如果您也有这样的困惑——
Q1
孩子状态差，家长干着急咋办？
A1：It's okay to not be okay.
让孩子知道：不要紧，慢慢来。
作为父母，我们此时能做的最重要的事情之一，就是接纳孩子的感受，不要着急解决问题。面对和处理情绪，也是孩子成长必经的体验。当孩子能够表达出情绪，家长才能知道怎么更好地提供帮助。因此，花点时间去倾听孩子，但是先不要给出建议或指示。你需要让孩子知道，他的难过或忧虑你都能接纳和理解。
你可以给他们再讲一讲学校的生活会是什么样，安抚引导他们多看向积极面，比如能够见到朝夕相处的小伙伴们以及和蔼可亲的老师们。共同寻找解决方案并不是一件坏事，但如果孩子不相信我们能够理解他们的感受，你所说的这些就会失去帮助他们的效果。
在校内，哈罗为每位学生提供个性化的关怀辅导，无论是幼儿园主班老师和生活老师，或是各年级的院舍舍监、学科老师、寄宿主管等，都密切关注学生日常心态和需求，提供及时帮助，让孩子在学业、人际、才能发展的过程中，始终能按照自己舒适、自信的节奏前行。
Q2
青春叛逆期，孩子像变了个人，
怎么沟通？
A2：切换到孩子视角，
了解青春期的变化与需求。
青春期叛逆，情绪敏感，难以沟通
“我的天使宝宝，一去不复返了吗？”
别慌，我们都经历过青春期
生理上的巨大变化、心理上的飞速成长，
外加校园环境和人际关系的突然改变，
这个阶段的孩子必然是“难养”的
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在哈罗上海为家长准备的心理学系列讲座
《叛逆的真相：青春期应对指南》上，
我们的教育专家教给家长们一个重要技巧——换位思考
“如果回到青春期，我可能会有怎样的困惑和感受？”
“希望爸妈别再把我当小孩子”
“我想靠自己来面对这些事情，不想总是依赖大人”
“我想做我自己，但是又怕朋友们在背后议论我”
“我很想快点长大，但是又不知道明天会发生什么，自己会变成什么样”
这样一想，孩子青春期的行为变化、细微情绪，
也正是在跟爸爸妈妈、老师同学发出信号：
“请给我更多尊重，更多信心，更多自由，
更多听听我的意见
耐心地理解我，陪伴我走向未来吧！”
尝试理解和接受孩子们青春期的烦恼，
就是走进他们的世界的第一步
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Some of these questions may be
at the top of your mind:
Q1
My child is not doing well emotionally. What can I do as a parent to help?
A1：It's okay to not be okay.
Let your child know that it's fine,
and they can take it slow.
As parents, the most important thing we can do now is to validate their feelings. Don't rush to problem-solve! Facing and processing emotions are part of child's growth. It's only when your child is able to express their emotion, then you will know how to help them. So take a few moments to listen, without giving instructions at first. You need to let your child know that you understand and are not afraid of their sadness or worry.
Talk to them about how school life will be like, and highlight the positive sides of schools, like being able to make great friends and meet wonderful teachers. There's nothing wrong with working with your child to find solutions. If they don't believe that we understand their feelings, they will quickly forget all of these great ideas.
At AISL Harrow Schools, we provide each student with personalised pastoral care. Whether it's the kindergarten teacher or House Master/House Mistress, subject teacher, or Head of Boarding, the faculties pay close attention to students' day-to-day emotional needs and offer timely help so that they can progress comfortably and confidently in their academics, interpersonal relationships and talent development.
Q2
My teenage child has become a completely different person. How do I communicate with him/her?
A2：Put yourself in your child's shoes
and understand their changes
and needs during adolescence.
Your kid has hit puberty and has become sensitive and difficult to communicate with.
You may be wondering: 'Is my angelic baby gone for good?'
Don't panic. We've all been through this phase.
Imagine the huge physiological changes, rapid mental growth, and shifts in school environment
and interpersonal relationships.
All this makes raising a teenager 'challenging'.
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At AISL Harrow Shanghai's psychology talk for parents,
‘The Truth of Teenage Rebellion:
A Guide to Coping with Adolescence’,
our education expert shared an essential skill with parents: putting oneself in another’s shoes.
‘What would I have felt or been confused about when I was a teenager?’
‘I hope Mum and Dad would stop treating me like a child.’
‘I want to do things on my own, without always relying on adults.’
‘I want to be myself. But I also worry about what my friends would say about me behind my back.’
‘I want to grow up quickly, but I don’t know what will happen tomorrow or what I will become.'
When put this way, a teenager's behavioural changes and nuanced emotions are like signals to their parents, teachers, and peers:
‘Please give me more respect, trust and freedom; listen to my thoughts, be patient and try to understand me; be my companion on my journey into the future!’
Try to understand and embrace your kid's
adolescent concerns.
That's your first step into their world.
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Q3
学业压力大，家长也焦虑，
如何减压？
A3：无需隐藏压力，
和孩子一起寻找舒压的共同爱好吧！
孩子能够感受到父母的情绪，这并不意味着我们需要假装自己开心，如果我们试图隐藏感受，也会带给孩子紧张不安。他们知道有些地方出了问题，但又不知道哪里不对，这会加重他们的心理负担。
您可结合自己和孩子的爱好，规划亲子时光：一起到大自然中，感受阳光和草木花香；从运动瑜伽，到阅读烘焙……跟孩子一起在生活中发掘趣味，教会孩子劳逸结合的好习惯，一起培养调节心态的能力。
与此同时，每一所AISL哈罗学校都会精心设计相关的课外拓展活动，让学生们更加关注自己的心理状态，并且掌握正确的减压放松的方法。
譬如，哈罗香港响应“世界心理健康日”(World Mental Health Day)，为学生们开设了全天的心理健康主题活动：从太极、冥想、刺绣、折纸、陶艺，到拳击、舞蹈、球类竞技…… 无论i人e人，学生们都可以从中找到放松身心、培养爱好的好方法。
Q4
娃总爱拖延，做事提不起劲？
A4：培养时间规划能力，
学得自律，玩得踏实。
孩子拖延的成因有很多，譬如有的孩子不理解为何要完成一件事，缺乏目标和驱动力；也有的孩子明明知道“我应该做”，但缺乏时间与进度规划的能力，或担心自己做不好、会得到消极反馈。因此，培养孩子为自己设定合理的目标及计划十分重要，提供积极鼓励，十分重要。目标的设定要详细、具体，并且能够实现。
新学期计划：在新学期培养良好习惯
· 早上7点起床，晚上9点睡觉
· 每星期读两本课外书，中英各一
· 交到五个新朋友
· 设定新的学科目标
有了目标后，家长还应该引导孩子一起制定相应的执行方案：为了达到目标，我需要做些什么计划？哪些是优先级更高的事项？例如，你希望多读一些课外书籍，可能需要每天睡前都读书半小时，以达到自己的目标。
当拥有了明确的目标，并通过完成一件件具体的事，取得进展并获得表扬，孩子的成就感和积极性就会大大增强，提升自律、戒掉拖延！
让孩子拥有丰沛的幸福感
是家长们的共同心愿
也是哈罗教育的本心
我们都相信
细致专业的心理健康关怀和教育
能够引导孩子们在遇到成长挑战、
面对人生分叉口时
及时寻求帮助、作出正确判断，
因此，再“费心”的教育
也值得
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Q3
My child is under a lot of academic pressure. Even I, as a parent, feel anxious. How can I reduce the stress?
A3：No need to hide the stress.
Find a common hobby
with your child to relax together!
Children pick up on the emotions of their parents. It doesn't mean we need to pretend to be happy when we're not. If we try and hide our feelings from our children, it puts them on edge. If they know that something is wrong, but they can't put their finger on it; it will further burden their emotional pressure.
You can plan bonding time around activities that you and your child enjoy: from sports, outdoor activities, yoga, reading and baking, discovering the fun in everyday life with your child andteaching them the value of making an effort and having fun. Together, we can achieve balance in your mental health.
Meanwhile, each AISL Harrow School carefully designs the co-curricular activities that help students take care of their mental wellbeing and manage stress in the right way.
For example, Harrow International School Hong Kong organised a mental health-themed event in support of World Mental Health Day, with activities ranging from Tai Chi, meditation, embroidery, paper folding and pottery to boxing, dancing and ball games. Every student, whether introverted or extroverted, would be able to find something to help them relax and develop a hobby.
Q4
My child procrastinates all the time
and never finds the motivation to do anything.
A4：Encourage time management skills
and self-discipline. Let your child feel grounded and fulfilled even while playing.
There are many reasons why a child may procrastinate. Some lack motivation because they don't understand why they need to do it; some know that 'they should do it, but lack the time and progress management ability, or they worry about performing poorly and getting negative feedback. It's important to guide your child in setting reasonable goals and plans, and encourage them. Make sure the goals are detailed, specific, and achievable.
New term, new plans: develop good habits
in the new school term
Get up at 7 am, go to bed at 9 pm
Read two books (one English and one Chinese) outside the curriculum each week
Make five new friends
Set new subject goals
With clear goals in place, you can encourage your child to make plans to achieve them: 'What plans do I need to make to achieve my goals? Which are my priorities?' For example, for reading more books, they might need to read for half an hour before bed every day to achieve this goal.
Once they've set concrete goals, made progress and received praise for completing one task after another, your child will feel a great sense of achievement and motivation. They’ll have better self-discipline and stop procrastinating!
It is every parent's wish
to ensure the wellbeing of their child.
It is also a fundamental ethos of
Harrow education.
We believe that attentive, professional mental health care and education
can guide children to seek help and make the right choices when faced with challenges or at crossroads in their lives.
It is therefore worth going the extra mile
to ensure that a child receives the most holistic education for their overall wellbeing.
下一期“心理健康”主题推文，
我们将继续为您解读：
AISL哈罗学校如何打造“反霸凌”校园，
并邀请网络安全专家分享数码时代下，
家长如何与学校共同守护孩子网络安全的
有效措施。敬请关注！
In our next post on mental health, we will explore
how AISL Harrow Schools are creating an 'anti-bullying' campus, and invite cybersecurity experts to share how parents can work with schools to safeguard their children online. Stay tuned!
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个性化关怀辅导、幸福感教育案例
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for case studies on AISL Harrow Schools’
personalised pastoral care and focus on
wellbeing in education.
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