There are many people who are facing the same circumstances as you but they live fascinating and wonderful lives.
有很多人和你面临相同的情况,
但他们却过着令人着迷和美好的生活.
How did their lives become so good?
How do they manage to laugh and play despite their circumstances?
他们的生活是怎么变得如此美好的?尽管环境如此,
他们是如何做到笑容满面,
充满乐趣的呢?
no matter the circumstances,
is simple.
保持快乐态度的关键,
无论情况如何,
其实很简单.
你可能听说过:首先要爱自己.
That's true enough but it's not the answer to our question.
这虽有一定道理,
但不是我们问题的答案.
No, the answer is - Like you, first.
答案是:首先要喜欢自己.
That's right - Like You! Be your best friend.
没错--喜欢你自己!做你自己的好朋友.
And allow yourself the luxury of feeling JOY!
并允许自己感受到快乐!
Your real life best friend likes who you are right now with all your imperfections,
quirks,
and circumstances.
你真正的朋友喜欢你现在的样子,
尽管你有缺陷,
怪癖和各种情况.
For true happiness,
you must become your best friend before you can begin to love yourself.
为了真正的幸福,
你必须成为你自己的好朋友,
然后才能开始爱自己.
爱自己意味着不做那些会伤害自己的事情.
You'll never get me bungee jumping or skydiving because I love this body I live in! You may also have heard it said - loving means accepting.
你永远不会让我去蹦极或跳伞,
因为我爱我所拥有的身体!
你也许听说过:爱意味着接受.
将其改为:喜欢意味着接受.
To like yourself,
and others,
means to realize that we are not perfect beings.
喜欢自己和他人意味着认识到我们不是完美的存在.
You will never be perfect no matter how long you walk this earth.
无论你在这世上走多久, 你都不会变得完美.
No one living today are perfect.
今天生活在世上的人没有一个是完美的.
No, not anyone!
没有人!
Liking yourself means developing an attitude of genuine contentment.
喜欢自己意味着培养一种真正的满足感.
When you accept your current job,
accept the way you look,
accept your family,
accept your friends,
your home,
your car,
and all the material things you now have
--- truly,
you know what genuine contentment is.
当你接受你目前的工作,
接受你现在的样子,
接受你的家庭,
接受你的朋友,
接受你的家,
接受你的车,
以及你现在拥有的所有物质东西时
---真正地,
你会知道什么是真正的满足.
You have begun to love yourself and be genuinely happy.
你开始爱自己, 并真正地感到幸福.
An unhappy person never accepts the good in their circumstances because they are always comparing themselves to someone who seems to have what they think they are lacking.
一个不幸福的人永远不会接受自己环境中的美好,
因为他们总是在和那些看似拥有他们所认为自己缺乏的东西的人比较.
They see themselves as unlucky and as a failure in life.
他们把自己看作是不幸的, 人生失败者.
They don't like themselves.
他们不喜欢自己.
You will never like yourself if you compare yourself to other people.
如果你总是拿自己和别人比较,
你永远不会喜欢自己.
If you keep questioning life like it has never done you any good or that you are a failure,
you will never be able to find genuine happiness.
如果你一直质疑生活,
好像它从未对你有过任何好处,
或者你是个失败者,
你将永远无法找到真正的幸福.
So . . . 所以……
振作起来!
Stop seeing others as better off than you are or more intelligent than you are!
You really have no idea of the details of their lives so your comparison is flawed from the start.
停止比较!
不要再把别人看作比你更幸福或更聪明!
你真的不了解他们生活的细节,
所以你的比较从一开始就有缺陷.
You simply do not have enough information to make a comparison.
你根本没有足够的信息进行比较.
Stop placing unreasonable expectations on yourself and others based upon false information.
停止抱有不切实际的期望!
不要基于虚假的信息对自己和他人设立不合理的期望.
4) Get over yourself! You'll never be perfect, remember?
放下自我!你永远不会完美, 记住吗?
Life can be the greatest game.
生活可以是最棒的游戏.
Go at it with gusto.
全情投入去玩吧.
It's about finding out about right and wrong,
trying and failing,
wining and losing.
这是关于发现对错, 尝试和失败,
赢得和失去的过程.
These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale.
这些事情发生得和你呼吸一样频繁.
These are as necessary as air is to living.
它们和空气对生活的重要性一样必要.
These are your teachers.
它们是你的老师.
Embrace them with enthusiasm.
热情地接受它们.
Is anyone genuinely happy in spite of life's trials and tribulations or are they just acting like they are?
Here again we are making comparisons.
有人会在生活的磨难和困境中真正感到幸福吗?
还是他们只是装作幸福?我们在这里又在进行比较了.
Does it matter to you if anyone else is truly happy? No,
it doesn't,
at this point.
别人是否真的幸福对你来说重要吗?不,
现在不重要.
you need to get yourself in line with life before you can worry about anyone else.
你需要首先调整好自己与生活的关系,
然后才能担心其他人.
You need to focus on YOU!
你需要关注你自己!
You need to focus on improving how you feel about the quality of you own life and your inner being.
你需要专注于提升你对自己生活质量和内心状态的感受.
It starts and ends within YOU!
一切始于你, 终于你!
Here is a revealing exercise.
这里有一个揭示性的练习.
Start each day with a blank sheet of paper divided into two columns.
每天开始时, 拿一张白纸, 将其分为两列.
Label one column - Positive Stuff,
label the other column - "Negative Stuff.
一列标记为积极的东西,
另一列标记为"消极的东西".
At the end of each day write down as many positives and negatives that you experienced that day.
每天结束时,
写下你当天经历的尽可能多的积极和消极事件.
Write down only those that really stick out.
只写那些真正突出的.
Now, study your lists.
然后, 研究你的列表.
This exercise will reveal just where your attitude needs to change toward all the things in life that you confront each day.
这个练习将揭示你对每天遇到的所有事物的态度需要改变的地方.
As you examine your list,
ask yourself two questions:
当你检查你的列表时, 问自己两个问题:
1) Why do I feel that's positive?
为什么我觉得这是积极的?
2) Why do I feel that's negative?
为什么我觉得这是消极的?
Now, examine your inner definitions of what's positive and what's negative.
现在, 审视一下你对什么是积极的,
什么是消极的内在定义.
You decided what's positive and what's negative by using your expectations of how you believe you should have handled what the world threw at you that day,
right? The key to finding contentment and genuine happiness is to change your definitions,
the way you evaluate how you handle life.
你决定什么是积极的, 什么是消极的,
是依据你对世界对你施加的事情的期望,
对吗?寻找满足感和真正幸福的关键在于改变你的定义,
改变你评估处理生活方式的方式.
But, how do you change your definitions and begin to become genuinely happy?
那么, 如何改变你的定义, 开始变得真正幸福呢?
Everyone has a personal definition of happiness.
每个人对幸福都有个人的定义.
对于一个作家来说, 幸福可能意味着有第一部小说出版.
Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award.
对于一个篮球新秀来说, 幸福可能意味着获得年度最佳新秀奖.
Happiness for a beggar may mean five dollars handed to him by a generous passerby.
对于一个乞丐来说, 幸福可能意味着得到一个慷慨路人的五美元.
Happiness for a businessman may mean a 5% profit margin.
对于一个商人来说, 幸福可能意味着5%的利润率.
But all those are temporary.
但这些都是暂时的.
All those exist in a moment in time.
这些都只存在于某一刻.
Would the writer be content with having only a single article published?
Would the rookie be content to just enjoy playing the game?
Would the beggar be content with just one dollars?
Would the businessman be content with a 2% profit margin?
Contentment is knowing that current circumstances change minute-by-minute,
day-to-day,
realizing that every day above ground is a good day!
作家会满足于只出版一篇文章吗?
新秀会满足于仅仅享受打比赛吗?
乞丐会满足于只得到一美元吗?
商人会满足于2%的利润率吗?
满足感是知道当前的情况在不断变化,
每分钟, 每天都在变化,
意识到活着的每一天都是好日子!
简单吧.
So, how do you become genuinely happy?
Realize that your happiness does not depend upon having the best things in this world.
那么, 如何才能变得真正幸福呢?
意识到你的幸福不依赖于拥有世界上最好的东西.
It's about doing and making the best out of every single thing you have.
幸福是做好每一件事, 充分利用你拥有的每一样东西.
Smiling at your own mistakes and telling yourself
--- Oh,
I'll do better next time
--- is a powerful mental tool that you can use anytime the situation calls for it.
对自己的错误微笑,
并告诉自己
---哦,
我下次会做得更好
---这是一个强大的心理工具,
你可以在任何需要的时候使用.
You possess a willingness to stand up again and try,
a willingness that will make you a genuinely happy person.
你拥有再次站起来尝试的意愿,
这种意愿会使你成为一个真正幸福的人.
When you learn to like yourself by accepting your faults,
you have begun the journey toward becoming genuinely happy.
当你通过接受自己的缺陷来学会喜欢自己时,
你已经开始了成为真正幸福的旅程.
you will be more accepting of others.
首先接受自己, 你会更加接受他人.
You will see life as a great and fun game in which to play.
你会把生活视为一个有趣的游戏来玩.
You will accept your wins and your losses with equally positive enthusiasm because it really makes no difference to your inner self.
你会以同样积极的热情接受你的胜利和失败,
因为这对你的内心自我没有真正的影响.
Let us leave you with one more thought
--- Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life's aches and pain.
让我们给你留下一句思考的话
---我们大多数人知道笑声是生活痛苦的最好良药.
But most of us don't know that the best kind of laughter is laughing at your own mistakes and foibles.
但大多数人不知道,
最好的笑声是对自己的错误和缺陷发笑.
Laughing at yourself will truly set you free to live life with genuine happiness.
笑对自己将真正让你自由地过上充满幸福的生活.
