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A recent post by a 28-year-old woman in Shenzhen has sparked a heated discussion on Chinese social media, as she expressed her frustration over her struggles to find a partner, attributing the difficulty to her lack of beauty.
The woman shared her personal background, stating that she is 28 years old, 165 cm tall, weighs 58 kg, and considers herself to have average looks. She has a prestigious education from a 985 university, holds both a bachelor’s and master’s degree, and earns over RMB 200,000 annually. Raised as an only child in a well-off family in a major inland city, she now works in Shenzhen. Her family is involved in a stable government job.
When it comes to her dating preferences, she claimed to have "low" standards: the man doesn’t need to be very handsome, but there must be some mutual attraction. However, her past dating experiences suggest otherwise.
She described her past encounters with several potential suitors:
A man working at a state-owned enterprise, a fellow native from her hometown, earning around RMB 200,000 annually, and standing under 170 cm in height. She wasn’t interested.
A civil servant, slightly overweight. She rejected him for being "too fat."
A former middle school classmate, working for a private company, 180 cm tall, with decent looks. Despite his acceptable appearance, she didn’t feel any spark.
A man suffering from hair loss, whose personality she found dull and uninteresting. Again, she wasn’t interested.
In total, she has gone through over ten matchmaking encounters, none of which worked out. She lamented that her average appearance might be the root cause, though she acknowledged that some of the men weren’t interested in her either.
After sharing her experience, netizens flooded the post with opinions, prompting the woman to clarify her true expectations for a partner. She admitted that her requirements were as follows:
The man must have a high level of education.
He should be hardworking and ambitious.
She wants to experience dating a handsome man, even if it ends badly. In her words, "If I don’t date a good-looking guy, I’ll feel like I haven’t lived."
The man’s family must be financially stable, with no economic burdens.
His income should exceed her own.
One netizen summed up the situation, remarking that her ideal man must be highly educated, with a stable job, earning over RMB 200,000 a year, from a wealthy family, and physically fit, standing 180 cm tall with a six-pack. "It’s no wonder she hasn’t found anyone yet," the comment reads, "Even in all of China, you’d struggle to find many men who meet those criteria."
