如果你过于坚持一个观点，当某个人或某件事挑战该观点时，你就经常会产生心理痛苦，尤其是当相关挑战涉及你的某种缺点的时候。这种心理痛苦是一个迹象，说明你可能是错的，你需要以高质量的方式思考这个问题。为此你需要先让自己冷静下来。 这可能有些难：你或许会感觉到大脑杏仁体开始产生影响，你的脑袋里发紧，你的身体会紧张，或者你的心中会涌起一种恼怒感，想发脾气。每当出现这些情绪时，你都需要注意，这些都是头脑封闭的迹象。意识到这些迹象后，你就可以将其作为线索来控制自己的行为，引导自己走向头脑开放。长期这样练习将增强你的能力，让“更高层次的你”始终处于控制地位。你练习得越多，你的能力就会变得越强。 Mental pain often comes from being too attached to an idea when a person or an event comes along to challenge it. This is especailly true when what is being pointed out to you involves a weakness on your part. This kind of mental pain is a clue that you are potentially wrong and that you need to think about the question in a quality way. To do this, first calm yourself down. This can be difficult: You will probably feel your amygdala kicking in through a tightening in your head, tension in your body, or an emerging sense of annoyance, anger, or irritability. Note these feelings when they arise in you. By being aware of such signals of closed-mindedness, you can use them as cues to control your behavior and guide yourself toward open-mindedness. Doing this regularly will strengthen your ability to keep your “higher-level you” in control. The more you do it, the stronger you will become.
