我过去一直以为,较高层次的自我需要和较低层次的自我斗争,夺取控制权,但我逐渐明白,更有效的做法是训练潜意识的、情绪性的自我,就像教育孩子听话一样。你需要坚持慈爱友善地训练,以让自己养成好习惯。I used to think that the upper-level you needed to fight with the lower-level you to gain control, but over time I’ve learned that it is more effective to train that subconscious, emotional you the same way you would teach a child to behave the way you would like him or her to behave—with loving kindness and persistence so that the right habits are acquired.