当有一天，你发现亲戚和你不亲了，其实不是因为亲戚变了，而是因为他们在你身上占不到便宜了。这句话，听起来或许有些刺耳，但细细品味，却藏着几分生活的真谛。
When one day you find that your relatives are no longer close to you, it's not because they have changed, but because they can no longer take advantage of you. This sentence may sound harsh, but upon closer inspection, there is a hint of the true essence of life hidden within.
亲戚之间的关系，有时候就像是一面镜子，映照出世间冷暖。 当我们风光无限，似乎每个人都想靠近一些，分享那份荣耀与温暖。但当我们遇到低谷，那些曾经的热情与亲近，却往往如潮水般退去。这并非亲戚本身变了，而是他们在你身上的“利益”发生了变化。这里的“利益”，不仅仅是物质上的，更多的是情感上的依赖、精神上的慰藉。
Relatives' relationships are sometimes like a mirror, reflecting the warmth and coldness of the world. When we are at our best, it seems that everyone wants to get closer and share that glory and warmth. But when we encounter lows, those once enthusiastic and intimate relationships often fade away like the tide. It's not that the relatives themselves have changed, but the "benefits" they seek from you have shifted. Here, "benefits" are not just material, but more about emotional dependence and spiritual solace.
古人云：“贫居闹市无人问，富在深山有远亲。” 这句话道出了人性的一个侧面：人们往往因你的境遇而改变对你的态度。当你身处困境，即便是近邻也可能对你视而不见；而一旦你飞黄腾达，即便是远亲也会不辞辛劳地前来拜访。这不是亲戚的错，而是人性使然，是社会这个大染缸中的一抹色彩。
As the ancients said, "In a poor neighborhood, no one cares; in a remote mountain with wealth, distant relatives come." This phrase reveals an aspect of human nature: people often change their attitude towards you based on your circumstances. When you are in trouble, even neighbors might ignore you; but once you become prosperous, even distant relatives will make the effort to visit. It's not the fault of relatives, but a manifestation of human nature, a touch of color in the vast dye vat of society.
但真正的亲情，应当是不论贫富，始终如一。 它不应是建立在利益交换之上的脆弱纽带，而应是风雨同舟、患难与共的坚固桥梁。那些因为你在他们身上“占不到便宜”而疏远的亲戚，或许从未真正理解亲情的真谛。正如苏轼所言：“但愿人长久，千里共婵娟。” 他所期盼的，是一种超越物质、跨越时空的情感联结，是无论距离多远，心都能紧紧相依的美好愿景。
But true family bonds should remain unchanged, regardless of wealth or poverty. They should not be fragile ties built on the exchange of benefits, but strong bridges that weather storms and share hardships together. Those relatives who distance themselves because they can't "benefit" from you may have never truly understood the essence of family bonds. As Su Shi said, "I only hope that our lives will be long, and we can share the same bright moon, though miles apart." What he longed for was an emotional connection that transcends material wealth and time and space, a beautiful vision where hearts can be closely connected, no matter the distance.
面对这样的变化，我们不妨以一颗平和之心去接受。 人生如戏，每个人都是自己故事的主角，他人不过是过客。亲戚之间的关系，也需要双方共同维护，若一方已无意，强求也无益。学会放手，不是放弃亲情，而是放下对那些肤浅关系的执着，转而珍惜那些不因你境遇改变而始终陪伴在你身边的人。
Faced with such changes, we might as well accept them with a peaceful heart. Life is like a drama, where everyone is the protagonist of their own story, and others are just passersby. Relationships between relatives also require mutual effort to maintain. If one party has lost interest, forcing it is fruitless. Learning to let go is not about giving up on family bonds, but about releasing the obsession with superficial relationships and instead cherishing those who stay by your side, unchanging despite your circumstances.
生活还在继续，愿我们都能拥有一颗感恩的心，珍惜眼前人，不论贫富，不论顺逆，都能守护住那份最纯粹的情感。
Life continues, and I hope we can all possess a grateful heart, cherishing the people around us, regardless of wealth or poverty, smooth sailing or adversity, and guarding that purest emotion.
