Michael聊聊：如果听到别人说你没有天赋

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Hey everyone, welcome back to Yapping with Michael. The subject I want to talk about with you guys today is what happens when you're told that you don't have a talent in the subject. I'm going to talk about this from three points.

大家好，欢迎回到“Michael聊聊”。今天我想和大家谈谈，当有人告诉你，你在某个领域没有天赋时会怎样。我将从三个方面来讨论这个问题。

First of all, how I felt when I discovered that some people thought I don't have a talent in something. No. 2, how I dealt with it, and No. 3, some tips about this.

首先，当我发现有些人认为我在某件事情上没有天赋时，我的感受。其次，我是如何应对的。第三，关于这个问题的一些个人建议。

Well, an overview about this: When I was younger, growing up, I wasn't exactly the type with a lot of talent, especially in any sports, contrary to popular belief, I think. But um, so how I felt when someone initially told me that you don't have a talent. It's not usually the coach that tells you that you don't have a talent. Sometimes they'll tell someone else, and then you'll learn that the coach thinks that you don't have a talent from that other person. Or it's just the coach's or the teacher's attitude in class when they are teaching you that you realize that they maybe think you don't have enough talent or that you're kind of wasting their time there.

概括来说，我从小时候起，到成长过程中，都并不是那种特别有运动天赋的人，这可能与很多人所看到的相反。当有人最初告诉我，你没有天赋时的感受，大致是这样：通常教练不会直说你没有天赋，有时他们会跟别人讲，然后你从别人口中得知教练认为你没有天赋。或者只是教练或老师在课堂上教你时的态度，让你意识到他们可能认为你没有足够的天赋，或者觉得你在浪费他们的时间。

So, how did I initially feel when I am told, or I feel like the coach feels like I don't have a talent? First of all, you're gonna feel disappointment, especially if it's a sport or a subject that you really want to pursue a career in, or even if you just enjoy doing it. Because you think,  I really like doing this thing, but then someone thinks I don't have a talent at it. So it's a little disappointing. And does that mean I'm a waste of time or something like that? You can't think like that. Disappointment is normal, but you can't succumb to the idea that you are a waste of time in that subject. No one is a waste of time.

那么，当我被告知或者我觉得教练认为我没有天赋时，我最初的感受是什么？首先，如果这是你真的想追求的一个运动或科目，或者即使你只是喜欢做这件事，（被评价没天赋）的第一反应是失望。因为你会想，我真的喜欢做这件事，但是有人认为我没有天赋，所以有点失望。但这是否意味着我是在浪费时间？别这么想。失望是正常的，但你不能屈服于自己在那个领域是浪费时间的想法。人生的每一步都算数。

If you work hard enough in this thing you want to do, then if you want to do this thing, you should keep working hard enough and not be insulted or defeated by some little thoughts of disappointment. And so that's how I felt, and that's kind of how I dealt with it. I was just telling myself like, you know what, you wanted to do this, okay, don't let what the coach says defeat you and stop you from doing it. It's the first way I dealt with it.

如果你在想做的事情上足够努力，如果你想坚持做这件事，你就继续努力好了，不要被一些失望的想法打败或击倒。所以这是我的感受，也是我应对的方式。我只是告诉自己，既然你想做这件事，好吧，不要让教练的话打败你，阻止你去做。这是我应对的第一种方式。

After that, one important thing about this is that before knowing and after knowing that the coach feels like you don't have a talent in something, you can't show any difference in your attitude in class or in practice. What that means is basically you still have to—especially, well, this will be normal and easy if you really want—if you really enjoy this thing, but you can't show any difference in the attitude, in the amount of effort and energy you put into these practices and classes, like before and after you realize that the coach thinks you don't have a talent or the teacher.

之后，这件事的一个重要方面是，在从对教练的态度一无所知，到了然于心的过程中，你自己在课堂或练习中的态度不要有任何变化。这意味着如果你真的想做这件事，就把别人的否定视作正常，去做就好了，不要在态度、努力程度和精力投入上显示出任何差异，在意识到教练或老师认为你没有天赋之前和之后，你都保持一样的努力。

Because that way, even if the teacher really thinks you don't have a talent, they will still think, okay, this kid at least pushes himself, he works hard, so he's not a complete waste of time. He could be something maybe. And so the coach won't give you as much of an attitude then if you just stop working hard completely. And also, if you really want to do this thing that you're doing right now, you wouldn't stop working hard just because the teacher says, or the teacher feels like you don't have a talent. If you're a little disappointed, you would want to keep working hard to try and achieve what you want to achieve.

因为这样，即使老师真的认为你没有天赋，他们仍然会认为，好吧，这个孩子至少很努力，他在尽力争取，所以教他也不算完全浪费时间，说不定哪天就练出来了。相比起你因打击停止努力而言，这样也许教练不会对你那么冷淡。而且，如果你真的想做你现在正在做的事情，你不会因为老师说或者老师觉得你没有天赋而停止努力。即便有点失望，你也会想继续努力，尝试实现你自己想要实现的目标。

Which brings me to the tips. First of all, just like going back through everything that I said, you gotta not be defeated by disappointment, and you have to keep working hard even if people think you don't have a talent. But also, you have to make sure that you know what you want to achieve in the school, and you have to actually want to do what you're doing in this. You have to have that ultimate goal that you want to achieve, have that thing you want to get to, or just think about it and do the best you can in this subject that you are currently doing.

下面总结下我的建议。首先，回顾我所说的一切，你不要被失望打败，一定继续努力，即使人们认为你没有天赋也没关系。你要明确自己在学校想要实现什么，并为之努力。同时你要给自己设定一个终极目标，明白自己想要什么，然后头也不回地朝着那个方向使劲。

Because if you don't have that feeling, if you don't have the heart to motivate yourself, you won't really care as much after the teacher says you don't have a talent. Because disappointment, like I said, it can go two ways. It can go bad, which basically defeats you completely and makes you want to stop doing what you've been doing or what you want to do. Or it can turn into motivation, which basically brings out like a fire and the energy in your heart, telling yourself that everyone else thinks that I can't do this, so I'm gonna—well, not exactly prove to them that I can, but prove to myself that I can.

因为如果你没有那种冲劲，如果你没有激励自己的心，你在老师说你没有天赋之后就不会那么在意了。因为失望，正如我所说的，它可以导致截然不同的两种结果。它可以变得很糟糕，完全击败你，让你想停止做你一直在做的或你想做的事情。或者它可以转化为动力，在你的心中燃起火焰和能量，告诉自己每个人都认为我不能做到，所以我要——不完全是向他们证明我能做到，而是向自己证明我能做到。

Which means that you should never give up on yourself, which is also a very important thing. You don't give up on yourself, and you don't give up on your goals. You want to prove to yourself that you can actually do what everyone else thinks that you can't do.

这意味着你永远不应该放弃自己，这也是非常重要的事情。你不要放弃自己，不要放弃你的目标。你要向自己证明，你实际上可以做到每个人认为你做不到的事情。

And so the main takeaway we can have from this is to not give up on yourself and not be disappointed when someone says or thinks that you don't have a talent in something. So that's it for today. The end. Bye!

所以我们可以从中得到的主要收获是，不要放弃自己，不要因为有人说或认为你在某件事情上没有天赋而感到失望。今天就到这里，再见！